Got dumped

[Fireballs]

I broke NC today but for logistical reasons. I want to keep the boat so I'm going to pay her out. It was the first time we've spoken since the break-up.. It was a friendly conversation with no animosity which was good.

 

[grayclif]

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Does me ignoring her make me look butthurt? Or make me look like I don't give a **** and never cared about her? I tried my best to figure this out by myself but my judgement is clouded.

Who cares what she thinks. You are moving on. She matters no more. Thank god you didn't have a kid with her.

Didn't she say you could have the boat? Why keep yourself in her life by paying her on a periodic basis?

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Your a pu$$y. That's why she broke up with you. Have her sign over the boat and don't pay her a dime if you don't have to. Get your living arrangements set and block her. The best thing she did was break up with you. Now you don't have to worry about her anymore.

 

[l_e_g_e_n_d]

LYD, I agree with some of your assessment, BUT how does one move on or reconcile feeling strong guilt or remorse as a result of previous perfunctory acts committed?

Even "if" the OP did wrong, would he not be in a stronger position to acknowledge that and walk away (allowing her the opportunity to reach out, IF she does), and maintain his emotional strength devoid of guilt and remorse for acts he cannot correct? Or, alternatively, should he "chase" and drive her away, saddling him with the guilt of losing the "gem" that got away. Great to increase his awareness for spiritual advancement, BUT how do we empower the OP, irrespective of her?

 

[KingBeef]

Yes you could've done more but that's in the past. Learn from your mistakes, grow and move on. For the most part you should be fine. It could be worse like getting her knocked up...