"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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got dissed by AW pretty hard

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ive known this chick for a while somewhat. shes cool but scandalous. never really messed around with her before but flirted etc. she is such a huge AW its not even funny.

there is this other chick that i like that is over my house quite often. AW decides to call me to hang out cause her and her"bf" are not getting along and are not together i guess. i was like well ill bring her over my house to use her to make the chick i like jealous. i did this the last two days in a row. so we all end up getting drunk etc. AW and i are all over each other basically like ass grabbing, holding hands, doin other sh1t. this is all happening at my house. chick i like was not around at this point. me AW and some others go to the bar.

I know she wants to go and run into her so called "bf". this kid and his friends are defiantley not at my level and neither is AW. at the bar we are still all over each other. in my head i was like ok im probably going to fvck her tonight. she sees her "bf" and talks to him etc. i tell her stop fvcking worrying who gives a sh1t. shes like yea i know. end of the night comes and i was like lets go home. she says hold on. goes and sits down next to some dude, couldve been her bf's roomate. but she starts leaning on him etc. i was like lets go then she said ill meet you later. that p1ssed me off. cause dude was clearly a dork etc. my friend goes up to her and says were leaving good luck finding a ride home. then i go up and say you hang out with d0uche bags and say something else, i cant remember. but i give her a look and walk away.

i dont know if she tried calling or not cause my phone was dead. im not really super surprised just a little though AW behavior. swear im not going to talk to her but if i do im just going to say you know what you hang out with d0uche bags and i feel like im one of those guys so its probably better we dont talk again. should send her the message that she fvcked up.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I hope you have your defensive shield up because they are about to lay into you.
 

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lol
sounds like you think way too highly of yourself when you are the loser

never had a chick do that to me, she's probably playing you like a 4 year old and you think you the man LOL
 

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you made yourself look like the dork.

After she said "hold on" you should have said this is your last chance to leave, and if she chose to stay with him, her loss. Your friend played it right saying good luck finding a ride home. If you know she's an AW, why give her the attention?

To do some damage control I wouldn't talk to her until she initiates convo, then DONT TALK ABOUT HOW SHE HANGS WITH D0UCHEBAGS!

The guy who hangs out with the girl always seems like a d0uche, doesn't he? Well not to her. She's putting out for him. Just don't even care. Let her lose all her dignity and respect by hanging out with losers. Its her loss.

Don't give her attention. Its the worst thing for her.
 

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Scolding an AW goes right over their head.

The only language AW understand is you playing jealousy games of your own with other chicks or withdrawing your attention for bad behavior.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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jcap go fvck yourself. gurantee got more sh1t going than you there buddy. im not going to say anymore but i know i got more sh1t than you.

im not the dork and she knows that. it was lmr that played a role in it. she probably sensed thats all i wanted from her. she knows im cooler than other dudes she knows.
 

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She played you like a pawn.

A pawn is a chess piece that is considered the weakest piece and is often the first piece to die.

It is also means "one who is easily manipulated" or "one who is sacrificed for a larger purpose".

This chick "INVITED HERSELF" to come over to your house and you thought you will use her as your own pawn to increase the interest of the chick you really wanted. However Karma is a b1tch and she had her own game going.

You were the one that was used. Her BF stopped paying attention to her so now she went right to the guy who she KNEW would pay attention to her and she doesn't even have to sleep with him. It did not mean it was over between the two of them.

Alas you arrived in the bar and you already thought you were going to get this chick to bed but again as I said before, KARMA IS A B1TCH (she used the same tactic you tried to use on her to attract the chick you liked, in order to make her BF jealous). Now when that didn't work she decided to make YOU jealous (which you were) and went to hang around her BF roomate.

Lets face it, you were outplayed in this game and lost.

If I were you, I would never allow someone to invite themselves into my house. No chick should just hang out in your house, if a chick comes over where you invited her then she should be aware that she would probably get fvcked that night. Since you acted too aloof and didn't know what to do, both the chick you like and the AW got too comfortable around you and as a result the chances of you nailing either one decreased tremendously. I mean who goes with a chick to the bar after they been in your house without banging them? first take them to the bar then take them home to bang.
 

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Have you even tried making a move on the chick you like prior to this? I ask because theres no point in trying to make her jelous if you don't have the balls to do anything with her. You probably screwed it up with her now.
 

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I think you handled it alright except waiting when she said hold on.

I have made those mistakes several times, I usually just say Ace Deuce and start laughing like I saw someone fall on their face.

Don't worry bout it, don't answer phone calls or texts.
 

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DJDamage said:
She played you like a pawn.

A pawn is a chess piece that is considered the weakest piece and is often the first piece to die.

It is also means "one who is easily manipulated" or "one who is sacrificed for a larger purpose".

This chick "INVITED HERSELF" to come over to your house and you thought you will use her as your own pawn to increase the interest of the chick you really wanted. However Karma is a b1tch and she had her own game going.

You were the one that was used. Her BF stopped paying attention to her so now she went right to the guy who she KNEW would pay attention to her and she doesn't even have to sleep with him. It did not mean it was over between the two of them.

Alas you arrived in the bar and you already thought you were going to get this chick to bed but again as I said before, KARMA IS A B1TCH (she used the same tactic you tried to use on her to attract the chick you liked, in order to make her BF jealous). Now when that didn't work she decided to make YOU jealous (which you were) and went to hang around her BF roomate.

Lets face it, you were outplayed in this game and lost.
:down: dumb logic.

come on, do you really think a typical attention whore has enough rationale to come up with that lil chess game you came up with?

sure the pieces fell into place that way, but it wasn't her plan to play him EXACTLY like that.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Michele said:
:down: dumb logic.

come on, do you really think a typical attention whore has enough rationale to come up with that lil chess game you came up with?

sure the pieces fell into place that way, but it wasn't her plan to play him EXACTLY like that.
That was not rationalized by the AW. She did what was came naturally to her and that was to seek attention. You be surprise what web of lies many girls have woven in their lives just to be the centre of attention and become popular.
 

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DJDamage said:
That was not rationalized by the AW. She did what was came naturally to her and that was to seek attention. You be surprise what web of lies many girls have woven in their lives just to be the centre of attention and become popular.
yeah, that makes more sense to me, i guess. just natural AW traits.
 

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well the AW called me the next morning (saturday) like early. she knew she fvcked up. anyways we ended up haning out basically wend, thurs, fri, sat, sun. she slept over 3 out of those nights. during the days we were haning out with a bunch of friends. she was all over me like crazy, kind of p1ssed me off cause it was a little too much in front of that girl i like. i didnt fvck her we just slept and spooned etc. i know exactly what she is doing. i even told her. shes on the rebound all butt hurt about her tool bf. i dont wanna be mean to her but she better start making moves on me otherwise im done with her. she said if i tried to make a move on her she wouldnt care, haha yea rigth she would deny me to make herself feel good cause she got denied by her bf or whatever he is. its hard cause ive known her for a while before this and we were never like this. im not going to call her or initiate anything. theres a good chance shes going to call me tonight to sleep over. ill let her but if we dont fvck then i will seriously kick her out and be done with her.

i wanna fvck the other girl but she might think whatever about me and the AW. guess i pushed it too far to make her jealous. this weekened a bunch of us are going camping including the girl i like. i am not going to allow AW to come.
 
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