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OP, great initial post. To me it feels like you took an honest look at which inning you were playing in at the ballgame of life so to speak instead of pretending you were leading off the Yankees in the first inning of the World Series.Yeah, women won't allow a season where you sit back and coast. That's what I was doing. I rested on my laurels. Regardless of whether it works out with her or not, I cannot just sit back and coast, not just because its unattractive to women, but I don't want to live a subopitmal life either. I want to hit as close to my full potential as possible.
When I think about it, I really dont have the luxury to sit back and coast. I am in excellent shape (post wrist injury recovery), hit $1M net worth (after a divorce), have interesting hobbies- tennis, motorcycles, a lot of foreign travel. However, I have some things going against me. I'm average height at 5'10, Im bald (ha!). So, I will always need to grind to get top tier women. But, I think the big thing that set me apart from other men is that I am extremely driven. Super ambitious. This dropped off when we were discussing marriage and seemingly heading in that direction. I knew better than to take my foot off the gas, so that's on me.
Your reply appears to me as dismissive. As if you are angry at her and hurt, but want to punish her for it.Appreciate the input fellas.
I believe my initial reaction to her (which I did not put in my opening post) was the correct one. Maybe it was too nice, but Asian women have a different temperament.
I said, "Listen, I'd like to be with you in the future. But, if you aren't feeling the same way, I'm okay with that too." She did indeed back track a bit after that. After that I told her I had some things I needed to get done. And that was that.
Thats where it stands now.
My action steps going forward will be:
1. Get back to working hard on my career like I was before.
2. Continue to take better care of myself through tennis, calisthenics and eating well.
3. Continue to read as much as I can, stay off the distractions from the internet, youtube, that don't serve me well.
4. Be prepared to immediately pivot and move on to other girls should this not work out.
Women at 28, that know the 30s are coming in fast, that know you can't get time back, with baby rabies, that want to get married, have the white picket fence, at the tail end of "I wasted my 20s", and to top it all, can play the "conservative" card very well, are everywhere, so hold your horses with the pedestalization there, buddy.@ Stoic; The girl is definitely a keeper.
This. Masculine"Cool I understand, I'm busy rehabilitating my arm and making sure I can work, you do you and we will connect later"
Not this. Feminine, toxic push pull dynamic."yeah, I was feeling the same way, I am glad you brought this up. Maybe we just need to go out separate ways then."
I never said to pedastalize the girl. Pedastalizing a girl means building your world around her to the point where you think if she leaves, you've lost everything. A keeper is someone who will tell you you're losing your sh*t when you're messing up. Never ever make a woman the central part of your world. For even your shadow disappears during the dark moments of the day.Women at 28, that know the 30s are coming in fast, that know you can't get time back, with baby rabies, that want to get married, have the white picket fence, at the tail end of "I wasted my 20s", and to top it all, can play the "conservative" card very well, are everywhere, so hold your horses with the pedestalization there, buddy.
It's never designed to get her back. It's you walking away.This. Masculine
Not this. Feminine, toxic push pull dynamic.
You would be lying because it's not true, you would be playing games like girls do. You may get her back but trust me she is going to ask you questions about this later, why you said that etc. You dont want to deal with this sh!t.
Be honest and transparent.
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