Ok so I just moved into the college dorms and met this really cute girl at an event yesterday. Honestly though I have no idea where to go from this point. We talked for about 15 mins, I got her number, and eventually we ran out of things to say. She ended up leaving with another girl she met. Thing is, I can get numbers but I have trouble doing anything with the number so it ends up becoming useless. And on top of that, I'm in a new and unknown environment adjusting to college life, so I have absolutely no clue what to say if I call or text her. Any advice on what to do? Thanks!
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Got college girls number what now?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Ask her to come over and watch a movie.
Bible_Belt
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As the man, it's your job to find something fun to do, act like you were going to do it already, and ask her to tag along.
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The Matrix or Old Boy, bruh.Dhoulmagus said:
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
1) DO NOT try to build rapport through the phone. Even if she wants to, leave it for when you two are together. Do not let her know of your hobbies, interests etc. Let the air of mystery build in her own mind. If she wants to message, either turn it flirty, change the topic or plan a means of getting you two spending time together. Less tele-communicative contact is best. Don't be afraid to draw everything out and keep her chasing. If she has any interest in you, she will chase.
2) Ask her out as soon as possible. Her IL is probably at the highest point at the moment and if you can pick it out whether she is interested or not or if you are up for the challenge, do it. You have to make your intentions clear. No, nice guy beating around the bush.
3) Kino, go in for the kiss or get her into bed. In doing so, you let her do the reasoning as to why she is with you not you chasing her. From my observations of my friends, it's those guys who have done this that have bled out a healthy relationship with said girl rather than spending eons chatting and doing nothing and only to realise she has gone back to her ex or someone more exciting.
4) Don't take whatever she says seriously. Words and actions are two different things. She can be aloof messaging but treat you like a crazed fan when she sees you or she can sound like the sweetest chick in messages but treat you like a rock if you bump into her.
Good luck my friend. Learn from my mistakes and make the most of your opportunities!
2) Ask her out as soon as possible. Her IL is probably at the highest point at the moment and if you can pick it out whether she is interested or not or if you are up for the challenge, do it. You have to make your intentions clear. No, nice guy beating around the bush.
3) Kino, go in for the kiss or get her into bed. In doing so, you let her do the reasoning as to why she is with you not you chasing her. From my observations of my friends, it's those guys who have done this that have bled out a healthy relationship with said girl rather than spending eons chatting and doing nothing and only to realise she has gone back to her ex or someone more exciting.
4) Don't take whatever she says seriously. Words and actions are two different things. She can be aloof messaging but treat you like a crazed fan when she sees you or she can sound like the sweetest chick in messages but treat you like a rock if you bump into her.
Good luck my friend. Learn from my mistakes and make the most of your opportunities!
DonGorgon
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lol now you join the other 1000000 guys that are texting her every night for sex good luck..