"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Got a weird email, Need Advice guys ? ? ?

Enigmatron

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Hi guys

just when i thought i was getting somewhere with this girl with online sex chat, and then i tried it over the phone and i couldnt do it!!! and then later that night i get this email

oh a heads up im going to the cinema wed with this girl, also i have had a hard time opening up to her and showing her the real me!

please help decipher guys as im confused whether to tell her to f*ck off or go out wed and have some fun in the cinema ;)


here it is!!!!!!!
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i want u to know that im bk with a ex... his names brett and he
lives in australia !! he wants what i want a family and were gonna move away when he gets enough money for us to start ... we might be moving away together soon hun thought it might of been best to tell u
this .. the only reason i put the barrier up is because i was in
love with brett and still am but we were having alot of difficulties
of us being soo far apart from each other ... im glad we are friends hun u think i cant get past ure mistakes .... but i have and i thhink its u that is having all these doubts ... as friends we will
have no experiences with each other ... i like u as a friend and as
friends , im not the kinda person to have sex with friends on a on n off basis call me old fashioned but id rather be it with someone i
love ... i dont find myself attracted to u in that kinda way ...
thought it wud come but nothing has for u !! im just saying as it is
hun !! i just ned someone more upbeat and more my type of fella ...
were gonna be good mates if wed goes well that is !!!

Luv
(Name)

P.s i hope u can find a girl to deal with ure complexs !! u say what
complexs n u get a smack round ure head wed :p hehe

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HELP!!!! My mind is f*cked up now
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Jariel

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Ok, this is a total blow off I'm afraid and the ex- thing is probably a lie to let you down easier. Sorry dude.

However, it sounds to me like you had her attracted to begin with but you blew it along the way. The clue is staring me in the face:

P.s i hope u can find a girl to deal with ure complexs !!
Have you been talking to this chick about any personal problems or issues? Have you shown her any insecurities? It would make a lot of sense if you have.

She also said she needs someone more "upbeat", which suggests you may have got too serious with her and need to lighten up more.

I am talking from experience here as I got a similar blow off last year. She was so into me on our first dates, then one night we had a heart to heart where I revealed a few minor insecurities. She told me "you are best keeping some things to yourself" and it was downhill from there. She ended up telling me once she got to know me, I'm not her type.

Confidence is of utmost importance when dealing with women.
 

Hound_of_Love

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Decipher?! What's to decipher?!

Work on improving yourself and chalk it up to experience.
 

Tomb

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It's pretty clear, she next you. Now move on and forget about her.
 

Enigmatron

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thanks for the advice guys, i'll keep you updated, im not exactly hurt or upset, just a bit numb, bring on the next girl :)

yeah i messed up with her a bit, its all too much to go into months worth of talking online and sharing everything and all emotions and she plays me well and she has had all the power, ive tried to bring it back with the help of this site

but the rot has set in too much now :(
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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DJDamage

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Originally posted by Enigmatron
just when i thought i was getting somewhere with this girl with online sex chat
online sex chat?????? realise that the only person you were fvcking that day was yourself. You weren't getting anywhere with her to begin with.

Her e-mail was full of B.S. I believe most of what she wrote was a fabrication of her imagination.

It was a rejection never the less. The last thing she said on the e-mail did make the most sense.

Originally posted by Enigmatron
i hope u can find a girl to deal with ure complexs !! u say what
complexs n u get a smack round ure head wed :p hehe
She thinks you are a wierdo. Better read the DJ Bible and get out of the house more and try to get REAL SEX next time.
 

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I assume you're meeting her on Wednesday?

Pretend you ddin't get the e-mail. And when you see her act much more upbeat. Where's the harm in trying?

Either that or next her & admit defeat. :D
 

Enigmatron

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ive emailed her back

q-unit i couldnt just assume as she was gonna show as before she has not, well twice before!!!

what can i say im a sucker!!!
 

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lol spell, she dont even talk!!!!!!!!! i have to do all the work and thats whats f*cked me up!!! no interaction!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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