"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Got a new hair cut and gf/plate....

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So i had grown my hair for 6 months. Still styled it tho. And i was getting hot cuz of warmer weather so i cut it buzzed cut. I look 25 now. Was looking 33. Everyone in class was complementing. My guy friends too cuz obviously i look much younger.
Humble brag aside...i noticed my gf/plate did not mention it once in 8 days. And started to act aloof, bossy, dissmissive. Opposite the caring way she was before. Except in the bedroom. It was more of everything. More passion if you will. Shes 39.
You think shes feeling awkward?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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She is feeling like you are going to get more attention from women and doesnt like it. She is worried you will look elsewhere.
 

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I know not to worry about whats in her emotions...but wouldnt that make her more happy to be with me? Instead of all bitter like that
 
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So i had grown my hair for 6 months. Still styled it tho. And i was getting hot cuz of warmer weather so i cut it buzzed cut. I look 25 now. Was looking 33. Everyone in class was complementing. My guy friends too cuz obviously i look much younger.
Humble brag aside...i noticed my gf/plate did not mention it once in 8 days. And started to act aloof, bossy, dissmissive. Opposite the caring way she was before. Except in the bedroom. It was more of everything. More passion if you will. Shes 39.
You think shes feeling awkward?
Why don't you just ask her? You know her better than anyone here. Be playful about it but find out what's going on if it's bothering you.
 
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I know not to worry about whats in her emotions...but wouldnt that make her more happy to be with me? Instead of all bitter like that
Oh, then if you're not worried about what's in her emotions then why do you care if she's more happy or if she's bitter?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Because it shows character. It shows how she deals with things. And its an indication of thd future.
Common sense someone youre with gets hotter you should applaud that and support it.
 

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So i had grown my hair for 6 months. Still styled it tho. And i was getting hot cuz of warmer weather so i cut it buzzed cut. I look 25 now. Was looking 33. Everyone in class was complementing. My guy friends too cuz obviously i look much younger.
Humble brag aside...i noticed my gf/plate did not mention it once in 8 days. And started to act aloof, bossy, dissmissive. Opposite the caring way she was before. Except in the bedroom. It was more of everything. More passion if you will. Shes 39.
You think shes feeling awkward?
I think the thing I would find most strange, is that she didn’t even mention the most obvious thing... that your hair is all gone. Girls attention or not. Haha like if my cat walked in to the room and had lost all is hair, I’d at least be like

Me:“WHOA!”
Cat: “Meow”
Me: back to reading book
Cat: looks out window

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In all seriousness, passion could have went up because you drastically changed your hair style overnight, so for her it would make her, in a sense, feel as though she was sleeping with someone else. (I’m not saying she wants to)

Plus, women like a shaved head I think, especially for a one night or short term partner. I always have generally longer-medium length hair (think Leo Dicap, in Romeo).
And I’ve on a whim, buzzed my head a couple times. Everytime I’ve done this I NOTICE women really start to notice me even more. And I can never figure out why.

how long have you two been together?
 

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i noticed my gf/plate did not mention it once in 8 days. And started to act aloof, bossy, dissmissive. Opposite the caring way she was before. Except in the bedroom. It was more of everything. More passion if you will. Shes 39.
You think shes feeling awkward?
No I think she is feeling her age.

If you said she was 26 and acting this way, then maybe you would have a point. But 39? She could be grandma with a 3 year old granddaughter.

Ouch.
 
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Because it shows character. It shows how she deals with things. And its an indication of thd future.
Common sense someone youre with gets hotter you should applaud that and support it.
So then her emotions are something that should concern you so talk to her about it, rather than have people who
don't even know her assume what's going on in her head. It's not like she's someone you just started dating right? You know this person better than anyone here.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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