"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Got a girl's # who's clearly interested in me! But she didn't answer? WTF?

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First thread posted in about 4 months.

I met this chick who displayed high IL by asking if I was single and eventually kissed my neck. There was other body language the girl used to show interest in me beyond the friend zone. We exchanged #'s and everything seemed cool. Then I called to meet up and the phone goes to voicemail after ringing 5 times.

WTF happened? Something tells me this girl was an attention wh0re or a d!cktease.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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JCballin88

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How long did you wait before calling her? She might just be busy...girls have things to do during the day besides sit around waiting for a random guy to call/text her.
 

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JCballin88 said:
How long did you wait before calling her? She might just be busy...girls have things to do during the day besides sit around waiting for a random guy to call/text her.
1.5 days and I was busy myself in a recording studio. I won't tell her this verbatum since it turns most chicks into golddiggers.
 

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Who knows. I once danced and made out heavy with a girl in a club. Can't get any better IOI than that. The club was about to close, got her number as she's leaving, called her up the following evening to say hi and she never returned my call. Gave it a try a few more days later. No luck. At that point I knew she wasn't going to call back but said screw it, I'll send her a text message saying what's up. No reply.

You could drive yourself nuts worrying about why girls are so irrational, but it's not worth the trouble. Just accept the fact that it wasn't meant to be and move on. I was being AFC by trying 3 times to contact her. These days, I call once, leave a message. If she doesn't call me back within the day then f*ck her.
 

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I met this chick who displayed high IL by asking if I was single and eventually kissed my neck.
Or, she was just playing with you because you were the closest guy. There is no such thing as "clear" interest from a female. Even if she says: " I would like you to fvck me tonight" it still isn't set in stone, nor does it mean that is what she actually wanted. Even after you have sex with her, she still might not consider that a display of interest-- she might have just wanted you for a few hours and thats it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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dude.. may be she is BUSY?

how about you call again later.
 

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Maybe she was eaten by an alligator and will never call you back.

Maybe she was busy getting railed by some dude and couldn't answer the phone.

It could have been nap time.

Ringer could have been off

Phone was eaten by toilet last night

she don't like you

Phone in locker at gym

She was on the john.


Who cares, stop stressing.
 
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