"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"Got" a girl but feeling lethargic

Huffman

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Okay here I live in some sort of mixed uni student dorm until I can move into my new place. And I notice some of the girls are pretty cute and probably into me.

So couple of days ago this girl found herself in my room at night, so I just went and kissed her. We fooled around for several hours, but I still didn't manage to get her pants off. It was a huge fight to get her even half naked already ;) Bit frustrating, but that's okay. I've had this before and they just don't want to give it up straight away. So I thought ok, I'll have it next time.

Now I'm sitting here and now I should be asking her out / inviting her over or whatever. Maybe a date, or maybe just a movie in my room... but I don't feel like doing it. AT ALL. I guess she just doesn't turn me on that much. Now she's looking fine and is witty and everything. Plus she has nice boobs. But I just don't feel enthusiastic about doing anything.

For quite some time, I haven't been feeling enthusiastic about any girls at all... I feel like the whole love/romantic part of me has completely died off. I used to be crazy in love with any girl who just smiled at me. Now I just feel nothing. I even tried not masturbating, but doesn't help much. Any of you experience this? I just stopped caring about everything. If I don't get easy sex I'm not interested anymore.

Last time this happened to me, I just broke it up and went away. But then I beat myself up over not taking the opportunity. Because I really want the sex, and here I could have it soon. Of course I'm a little insecure now, but nothing I couldn't overcome if I wanted. Am I just lazy?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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DonJuan_DeRosco

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You're probably just having one of those frames of mind, I wouldn't worry about it, it'll pass.

Think of your mood as a sine wave, for now you are simply in the negative curve, but that positive one is right behind it.

Don't worry about it, relax.

:)
 

Masculinity

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You smell that? *sniffing around* I smell someone about to come out of the closet. Haha...alright just kidding.

Sounds like you're putting too much weight on sex (as you probably just want to bang girls). Reality is you probably won't bang most of them the first time you have them come to your place--just get used to it and change your way of thinking; it's all in your head.
 

Asasione

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DonJuan_DeRosco said:
You're probably just having one of those frames of mind, I wouldn't worry about it, it'll pass.

Think of your mood as a sine wave, for now you are simply in the negative curve, but that positive one is right behind it.

Don't worry about it, relax.

:)
:rockon: I f**king concur. I was in a slump not wanting nothing from nobody before, but soon enough I wanted everyone. The feeling won't last forever and after there's sunshine after the rain
 

Huffman

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Thanks guys, I was overworked and tired when I wrote this... took a nap and world looks better now ;)

I'll look on the bright side: since I don't care I can do what I want and get away with it. So, time to be a little ****y and creative, and have fun :D
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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