"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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"Got" a girl but feeling lethargic

Huffman

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Okay here I live in some sort of mixed uni student dorm until I can move into my new place. And I notice some of the girls are pretty cute and probably into me.

So couple of days ago this girl found herself in my room at night, so I just went and kissed her. We fooled around for several hours, but I still didn't manage to get her pants off. It was a huge fight to get her even half naked already ;) Bit frustrating, but that's okay. I've had this before and they just don't want to give it up straight away. So I thought ok, I'll have it next time.

Now I'm sitting here and now I should be asking her out / inviting her over or whatever. Maybe a date, or maybe just a movie in my room... but I don't feel like doing it. AT ALL. I guess she just doesn't turn me on that much. Now she's looking fine and is witty and everything. Plus she has nice boobs. But I just don't feel enthusiastic about doing anything.

For quite some time, I haven't been feeling enthusiastic about any girls at all... I feel like the whole love/romantic part of me has completely died off. I used to be crazy in love with any girl who just smiled at me. Now I just feel nothing. I even tried not masturbating, but doesn't help much. Any of you experience this? I just stopped caring about everything. If I don't get easy sex I'm not interested anymore.

Last time this happened to me, I just broke it up and went away. But then I beat myself up over not taking the opportunity. Because I really want the sex, and here I could have it soon. Of course I'm a little insecure now, but nothing I couldn't overcome if I wanted. Am I just lazy?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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DonJuan_DeRosco

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You're probably just having one of those frames of mind, I wouldn't worry about it, it'll pass.

Think of your mood as a sine wave, for now you are simply in the negative curve, but that positive one is right behind it.

Don't worry about it, relax.

:)
 

Masculinity

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You smell that? *sniffing around* I smell someone about to come out of the closet. Haha...alright just kidding.

Sounds like you're putting too much weight on sex (as you probably just want to bang girls). Reality is you probably won't bang most of them the first time you have them come to your place--just get used to it and change your way of thinking; it's all in your head.
 

Asasione

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DonJuan_DeRosco said:
You're probably just having one of those frames of mind, I wouldn't worry about it, it'll pass.

Think of your mood as a sine wave, for now you are simply in the negative curve, but that positive one is right behind it.

Don't worry about it, relax.

:)
:rockon: I f**king concur. I was in a slump not wanting nothing from nobody before, but soon enough I wanted everyone. The feeling won't last forever and after there's sunshine after the rain
 

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Thanks guys, I was overworked and tired when I wrote this... took a nap and world looks better now ;)

I'll look on the bright side: since I don't care I can do what I want and get away with it. So, time to be a little ****y and creative, and have fun :D
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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