"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Got a call from the ex an hour ago...

thadder

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After about 2 weeks of not seeing each other, and no contact... I just got a call about an hour ago from my ex, I picked up, said hello, and all I could hear was background talking. After a few seconds, I hung up and sent a text saying "Not sure you mean to call me..."

Question is, was this a butt dial, or a ploy to contact me and see how I'd react?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ELMER_GANTRY

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Listen up here! This an ex, therefore, it's not your job to wonder or care why she called. Her number should be blocked just for the times she wants to toy with your emotions. An ex shouldn't be given the time of day let alone a pick up of a late night call. To make matters worse, you sent her a text which gives her further validation that you care. Violation of the no contact rule will set your back in you recovery. Don't violate that rule again under any circumstances. The best revenge you can have on an ex is not to care while bringing in another woman. Don't pick up her calls, pick up another woman.
 

MattTheW

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I got caught out the other day. Ex called my mobile from her work phone, which comes up as "no caller ID"
Reckoned she'd had a Misscall from the reception in my work.
Thought it might have been me (haha)
Convo didn't last long

Fella, don't give her the time of day.
And don't ever text back!!!
 

blind_one

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Trunks said:
Who cares? Bang better broads.
Spot on ! Why would you care if she's and ex and thats all in the past now ?

Keep on going DJ
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Tomo

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And she got what she wanted when you shot her a reply. I've found we may always feel inclined to reply to things but in the scheme of things, it is better to not have nor given it a thought.

Unless you are friends before or have to be with an ex (work etc), I'd never see the need to reply. Pleasantries can be exchanged should you bump into them.
 

Callmejoe

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Two weeks? That is not an ex. An call from an ex is like what happened to me, my ex-wife called after 8 YEARS of zero contact. She needed a copies of some papers.

Ignore it. You were wrong to even txt back.
 

Black Widow Void

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Like everyone else, I'd suggest losing her number.Was her call to you a mistake? I'd say no or not entirely. The reason is ... even if not intentional, if she butt dialed, then this is an indication that your number was residing on her main screen (which means that your number was prominent) . No matter, exiting this is best, but you can leave with that bit of knowledge.
 
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