Got a call from a girl who's nexted me?

[Telos]

I have to disagree with you there. Play this one out and see what happens. But in general, there's nothing worse than allowing yourself to be played and strung along, especially if you know what's happening.

You actually get more from cutting your losses and walking away from a girl who is playing you. It reinforces your confidence, you know that one girl isn't everything and your time is better spent with women who want to be with you. Then when the next one comes along it gets easier to establish your own frame immediately and not get drawn into hers.

Good luck in any case.

From someone who is experiencing the pain of not cutting his losses earlier I just want to comment on how right on this advice is. There is nothing closer to mental poison than allowing yourself to get dragged through the dirt by a girl that doesn't genuinely want to be with you. Protect your confidence and self-esteem at all costs. I'm not saying to cut things off in this case, but be careful.

 

[Thorns]

Translation from girl speak:
"Hey xxxx, I was originally going to flake on you for someone/something else but that didn't work out so now I'm desperate and I pulled your number out from the book I collect guy's numbers in, so please go out with me? I hope you do, that way I'll feel I'm wanted and that I'm not desperate because I'll think you are, thus inflating my ego."-xxxx

 

[Jaxon]

I suggested that we meet up for coffee tomorrow but she declined cause she doesn't know how she would feel.

Dude, you're not going to get anywhere with this girl. Why'd you even come to this site if you were just going to be there at her every whim and call back again?

It's obvious you wanted to call her and have been trying to rationalize it this entire thread. She's got you on a string and she knows it. You're done, finito, finished, kaput. Move along.