so, i met this really cute hb8 teller at the bank i visit everyday for business deposits. for a week or two we have made small talk while she does my deposits, so i built some rapport and i got her number on friday. i was thinking about calling her tonight to set up a date, but im not sure as some people recommend waiting a few more days and not just 2. but at the same time i dont want it to be awkward when i walk in tomorrow and she asks why havent i called. what do i do?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
got a bank teller's number - when should i call?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
After you've set up a date, bumping into the girl in between those times turns into a weird sort of purgatory where the interaction is neither here nor there. I prefer to not see the girl again until the day she comes out with me. Personal preference though.
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oneboy21
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ESPI is right
Since you already have some rapport, not a baad idea to ask her in person.
Since you already have some rapport, not a baad idea to ask her in person.
PrettyBoyAJ
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Either she wants to go out on a date with you or not. Call this chick whenever you feel like choppin up game with her. Mondays are generally bad however. (You know how folks are grumpy on monday plus if she gave any other dudes her number on the weekend thats when theyll hit her up). Feel this chick out and set up the date as soon as possible. Don't even think about it. A lot of people's problems would be solved if they didn't give a f*ck.
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Read this sh*t again!!!PrettyBoyAJ said:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Solid advice from AJ as usual.
Don't think just do. Do what you want and what you want is to set up a date with her asap and hookup. As said if she wants to meet up with you she will, and unless you say some dumb sh1t to royally f<ck it up you should be fine. There are no magic lines or anything.
Don't think just do. Do what you want and what you want is to set up a date with her asap and hookup. As said if she wants to meet up with you she will, and unless you say some dumb sh1t to royally f<ck it up you should be fine. There are no magic lines or anything.
thanks guys.
i called monday night and tonight - 5 rings then voicemail. i guess she is busy or just not next to her phone when i call. she seemed into me so im fairly sure its a real number lol. she hasnt been at the bank this week so far - she told me she often switches back and forth between 2 branches on a weekly/bimonthly basis. should i bother calling her 1 more time next week if i dont see her or let it go? im thinking to just ask her out in person next time i see her, that way at least i have a yes or no.
i called monday night and tonight - 5 rings then voicemail. i guess she is busy or just not next to her phone when i call. she seemed into me so im fairly sure its a real number lol. she hasnt been at the bank this week so far - she told me she often switches back and forth between 2 branches on a weekly/bimonthly basis. should i bother calling her 1 more time next week if i dont see her or let it go? im thinking to just ask her out in person next time i see her, that way at least i have a yes or no.
PrettyBoyAJ
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Call her one more time. If she doesn't pick up shoot a text and see what the vibe is looking like. If she doesn't anything thats not 100% co-operative then you delete her number and charge her a$$.
killercat2007
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First off don't delete her number for a couple of months. Whatever you f'n do don't dare call her two or three freaking times in one day she will totally drop any feelings she has for you. Women put men through tons of tests to see how you handle her. I have a lot of experience in the phone game bro so listen close or you will likely screw things up. Limit your contact via phone to once per day. Never leave a vm unless you are her bf! You will look way too needy if you call her 5 times a day and then 3 times in the morning. Women hate this kind of affection. I just overheard a HB7 saying how stupid it was this guy never stopped calling her. Treat it like a freaking game.
So far you are doing good my friend, keep up the good work. When you see her don't sound desperate that she didn't return your calls. 50% women are hooked on their phones like crack. So realize she I'd probably checking her phone like a meth addict waiting to see how thou play it.
My advice
Text her about meeting up. That's it! Don't freaking try to chat or nothing because eventually she will stop responding to your texts even if she starts hitting you back. Never call to chat up a woman or you will look like a dork and not in a good way. Girls love dorks but not creepy ones. Text her her where you want to meet and when and set all the expectations. Save the chat for later seriously. Try texting her with a date idea but don't call it a date. Drink dates are good starter dates.
You want to meet up with her anyway and since that is your initial motivation for talking to her go for the kill. Don't text "hi". Girls have told me not to do that because again you are trying to get to show interest in you. Show interest in her first and don't try to get a response back try to get a freaking date.
So far you are doing good my friend, keep up the good work. When you see her don't sound desperate that she didn't return your calls. 50% women are hooked on their phones like crack. So realize she I'd probably checking her phone like a meth addict waiting to see how thou play it.
My advice
Text her about meeting up. That's it! Don't freaking try to chat or nothing because eventually she will stop responding to your texts even if she starts hitting you back. Never call to chat up a woman or you will look like a dork and not in a good way. Girls love dorks but not creepy ones. Text her her where you want to meet and when and set all the expectations. Save the chat for later seriously. Try texting her with a date idea but don't call it a date. Drink dates are good starter dates.
You want to meet up with her anyway and since that is your initial motivation for talking to her go for the kill. Don't text "hi". Girls have told me not to do that because again you are trying to get to show interest in you. Show interest in her first and don't try to get a response back try to get a freaking date.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Serg897
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Seems like a classic case of low interest if you have called twice, plus texted once, and havent gotten any response. Go cold now and if you feel like it try again in a week or two - but honestly Im not sure I would bother. A total lack of response like that is ussually indicative of very low interest, and getting a date out of her will problably be a huge uphill battle. Find a woman that will actually answer her phone!
Since you see her at the bank her actions towards you will be very indicative also.
Since you see her at the bank her actions towards you will be very indicative also.
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Nope don't think that bro. Again she is freaking testing you without fail. She is probably really shy. Girls have been notorious for calling a dude back months later all ready for something. She is probably trying to get you off your game.
Show her some more interest. Again give it a couple of months and space out your contact with her. My suggestion is to text her again how happy you were to have met her. Start talking about yourself and how busy you are. Bust her on not returning your stuff. Say something like "I am happy I met you and I would like to see you but you are acting like a tease
."
Keep trying buddy but after 3 times calling and 3 times texting with no dice go ahead and wait a couple of months then try again. If she doesn't pick up on it by then forget her and move on. Also try to build some more rapport with her in person as this may increase her IL and could cause her to call you out of the blue one day.
Show her some more interest. Again give it a couple of months and space out your contact with her. My suggestion is to text her again how happy you were to have met her. Start talking about yourself and how busy you are. Bust her on not returning your stuff. Say something like "I am happy I met you and I would like to see you but you are acting like a tease
."Keep trying buddy but after 3 times calling and 3 times texting with no dice go ahead and wait a couple of months then try again. If she doesn't pick up on it by then forget her and move on. Also try to build some more rapport with her in person as this may increase her IL and could cause her to call you out of the blue one day.
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This girl is just not that into you. You need to go no contact, and go for a girl who will actually answer for your ass.
The quicker you forget this bank teller and accept this polite rejection, the quicker you can go for another girl. Do it. Court's orders.
The quicker you forget this bank teller and accept this polite rejection, the quicker you can go for another girl. Do it. Court's orders.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.