The Master Disaster
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List some good ways to find out if she has a boyfriend i'm running out of ideas. She just avoids the question and then wants to talk about something else.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Can you just not go out and ask her? "hey wheres your bf at?" man just ask.
The Comeback Kid
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I think you gotta be more assertive when you ask her this. Make her answer the question. By this, I do not mean forecfully (physical), but don't give in until you have an answer.
For example:
You: Hey, do you want to go (insert place) tonight?
Her: Uhh.................
You: Oh, ok, you must have a boyfriend.
Her: Hey, how about this fine weather!
You: You didn't answer my question.
Her: Ah, it looks great outside
You: Hey! (not too loud so she gets upset - just assertively). Do you have a boyfriend or not? Look, I'm not going to get upset, I'm not going to get mad, just please tell me if you have a boyfriend or not. Nothing bad is going to happen.
Now I've never really faced this situation, so they may be some flaw in there a fellow DJ here may detect. Nevertheless, do not give in until you get your answer. If she tries to change the subject, don't let her until you get your answer. This also shows her you are not some pushover and you are in control.
For example:
You: Hey, do you want to go (insert place) tonight?
Her: Uhh.................
You: Oh, ok, you must have a boyfriend.
Her: Hey, how about this fine weather!
You: You didn't answer my question.
Her: Ah, it looks great outside
You: Hey! (not too loud so she gets upset - just assertively). Do you have a boyfriend or not? Look, I'm not going to get upset, I'm not going to get mad, just please tell me if you have a boyfriend or not. Nothing bad is going to happen.
Now I've never really faced this situation, so they may be some flaw in there a fellow DJ here may detect. Nevertheless, do not give in until you get your answer. If she tries to change the subject, don't let her until you get your answer. This also shows her you are not some pushover and you are in control.
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use some reverse pyschology... if a girl ignores this question, chances are that
1) Shes been abused by her boyfriend (on the edge of a breakup or some sh1t like that)
2) You have SO much social status that she doesnt wanna say she doesnt have one or else shell lower her social satus even more.... or
3) Shes so happy with her boyfriend taht she doesnt wanna say no to you (kinda playing you) or else youll feel rejected or what not...
Take your pick.
Chances are she does...
1) Shes been abused by her boyfriend (on the edge of a breakup or some sh1t like that)
2) You have SO much social status that she doesnt wanna say she doesnt have one or else shell lower her social satus even more.... or
3) Shes so happy with her boyfriend taht she doesnt wanna say no to you (kinda playing you) or else youll feel rejected or what not...
Take your pick.
Chances are she does...
Never say "well you must have a boyfriend" because then she'll come to the conclusion that you like her and it destroys the mystery. Instead of doing that; just say something like " Sometime we will have to go out to the movies" if she says "ok, sure" then you can come to the conclusion that she is "single" if she is hesistant about answering you, she probably has a relationship. If she says "sure" say something like "cool, but it will be my choice of movie because I don't want to get stuck watching some chick flick or diary story" she will probably laugh and say " ok " if she is hesitant, and says " I have a BF" just say "That's fine, I'll just take *insert name* she has been dying to go to a movie with me" 
...whatever you do, don't sound sad if she's going out with someone.
...whatever you do, don't sound sad if she's going out with someone.“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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Yeah, always act completely indifferent to the fact she has or does not have, a boyfriend. What I like to do is just work the question in there real smooth, but ask it in an indirect way, so it isn't really a true question. I act like I know she has one for this to work. For instance, if I am flirting with her, and she is being intentionally annoying, I might say,
"How does your bf put up with you?"
If she is testing me and trying to get me to do something for her, such as asking me to get her a present for her b-day, I might say,
"What's the matter, didn't your bf get you anything?"
If she is being REALLY flirtacious and stuff, and I know for a fact she has a bf, I like to say, in a serious manner with a seductive grin,
"I'm sure your bf appreciates you flirting so much with me."
or just call her a big flirt or something. Act like you know she wants you. This might open her up to the subject and make her want to talk to you about how she can be your bf since she now knows you are a man of character who doesn't need to mess with other guys' gfs.
Finally, if she is trying to boss me around (testing again) and telling me what to do, I always say,
"Sorry, I'm not your bf."
So you see, in these ways, you can bring up the subject without ever even asking the question. Asking the question is almost always a bad idea. If you do it like I do, she is likely to respond with "I don't have a bf," and then your problem is solved. I find it particularly powerful because if you act like you don't really want her and basically tell her she should pay more attention to her bf and not you, you have also become the man she can't really have. Well, do what you want, but I personally would never directly ask her. Like, if she gives me her phone #, I basically assume she DOESN'T have one until she says otherwise.
"How does your bf put up with you?"
If she is testing me and trying to get me to do something for her, such as asking me to get her a present for her b-day, I might say,
"What's the matter, didn't your bf get you anything?"
If she is being REALLY flirtacious and stuff, and I know for a fact she has a bf, I like to say, in a serious manner with a seductive grin,
"I'm sure your bf appreciates you flirting so much with me."
or just call her a big flirt or something. Act like you know she wants you. This might open her up to the subject and make her want to talk to you about how she can be your bf since she now knows you are a man of character who doesn't need to mess with other guys' gfs.
Finally, if she is trying to boss me around (testing again) and telling me what to do, I always say,
"Sorry, I'm not your bf."
So you see, in these ways, you can bring up the subject without ever even asking the question. Asking the question is almost always a bad idea. If you do it like I do, she is likely to respond with "I don't have a bf," and then your problem is solved. I find it particularly powerful because if you act like you don't really want her and basically tell her she should pay more attention to her bf and not you, you have also become the man she can't really have. Well, do what you want, but I personally would never directly ask her. Like, if she gives me her phone #, I basically assume she DOESN'T have one until she says otherwise.
lol who cares if she has a boyfriend....whenever a guys around any girl that i might be cool with i go and put my arm around her and say so what are we doing tonight.....lol and if its her boyfriend, she gets angry and trys to fight me (verbally)...and hes the one that looks inscure not me.....its great how these jealous guys can lift up ur game!