"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Good way to respond to a flake?

S-House

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Hello, first time poster here.

I recently built some great rapport with a girl from work. I asked her if she wanted hang with me by my pool this week. She flaked on me (said friend was visiting from out of town. I smelled BS on this one).

She e-mailed to tell me. What would be the best way to respond to her e-mail?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Obsidian

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Next.

Read this explanation by the Great One, and you will feel more comfortable doing so. You don't need a low-interest girl, anyway.
 

S-House

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In other words don't even acknowledge her response? Personally I'd like to stick it to her a little bit with a witty response, but I'm not exactly sure what to say.

Bottom line: I don't want to go off sounding like a wussbag.
 

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Actions are louder than words. Trying to get some petty last word in will make you look like an ass, and even if you say something humorous to me that would still look needy - why are you spending time on someone you're not going to be with?

NEXT. That's the strongest move. When she sees you enjoying yourself with other woman that will be more satisfying than anything you could say.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Jariel

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On Point said:
Actions are louder than words. Trying to get some petty last word in will make you look like an ass, and even if you say something humorous to me that would still look needy - why are you spending time on someone you're not going to be with?

NEXT. That's the strongest move. When she sees you enjoying yourself with other woman that will be more satisfying than anything you could say.
Spot on!

I've tried many things, but nothing better than this.
 

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Look, if a woman rejects you but makes a counter offer then you can still try your luck. However, if they just email you or do some BS like this one then you leave it alone. (Still act like nothing happened at work, or she'll think she affected you.) Women are never honest, (i guess they don't want to hurt your feelings, even that's exactly what they're doing). They have subtle ways of letting you know they're not interested.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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KarmaSutra

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You have to let her know that you acknowledge that she is a bullsh!tter and that behaviour will neither be condoned or rewarded.

You send her back this:

Dear Miss,

Although I understand things come up at the last moment my time is far too valuable to waste. I have other women with whom I have thier undivided attention.

I'll let you know when I find some time to squeeze you in.

Me


Short and direct.
 
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