"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Good way to respond to a flake?

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Hello, first time poster here.

I recently built some great rapport with a girl from work. I asked her if she wanted hang with me by my pool this week. She flaked on me (said friend was visiting from out of town. I smelled BS on this one).

She e-mailed to tell me. What would be the best way to respond to her e-mail?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Next.

Read this explanation by the Great One, and you will feel more comfortable doing so. You don't need a low-interest girl, anyway.
 

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In other words don't even acknowledge her response? Personally I'd like to stick it to her a little bit with a witty response, but I'm not exactly sure what to say.

Bottom line: I don't want to go off sounding like a wussbag.
 

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Actions are louder than words. Trying to get some petty last word in will make you look like an ass, and even if you say something humorous to me that would still look needy - why are you spending time on someone you're not going to be with?

NEXT. That's the strongest move. When she sees you enjoying yourself with other woman that will be more satisfying than anything you could say.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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On Point said:
Actions are louder than words. Trying to get some petty last word in will make you look like an ass, and even if you say something humorous to me that would still look needy - why are you spending time on someone you're not going to be with?

NEXT. That's the strongest move. When she sees you enjoying yourself with other woman that will be more satisfying than anything you could say.
Spot on!

I've tried many things, but nothing better than this.
 

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Look, if a woman rejects you but makes a counter offer then you can still try your luck. However, if they just email you or do some BS like this one then you leave it alone. (Still act like nothing happened at work, or she'll think she affected you.) Women are never honest, (i guess they don't want to hurt your feelings, even that's exactly what they're doing). They have subtle ways of letting you know they're not interested.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You have to let her know that you acknowledge that she is a bullsh!tter and that behaviour will neither be condoned or rewarded.

You send her back this:

Dear Miss,

Although I understand things come up at the last moment my time is far too valuable to waste. I have other women with whom I have thier undivided attention.

I'll let you know when I find some time to squeeze you in.

Me


Short and direct.
 
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