"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Good sign/bad sign?

yowhatsup

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So there's this girl at school (college) that i'm pretty interested in. We've talked a little bit, done some studying together, joked around, etc. Yesterday, I decide I'm going to move in a little closer. She's in one of my lectures so I "accidentally" see her there and she and her friend invite me to sit with them. Everything is going swell right. Well, not long after this she starts talking with her (girl)friend saying things like

"Ya, he went with his friends to karaoke and didn't invite me. I hung up the phone on him, blah blah blah, what an idiot, i'm pissed at him" I'm pretty sure she's talking about her boyfriend. Ordinarily i would have taken that as a bad sign. Now I'm pretty new to this DJ stuff (been lurking here a while, reading the bible, etc) but I think I read somewhere in the bible that if the girl starts talking about how much of a loser her boyfriend is, that's a good sign for me?

Another question, after class, it sounds like her and her friend are making other plans, and I've got to eat lunch and get somewhere, so I just say my good byes and take off. I end up running into them in the cafeteria, I say jokingly "Well look who it is!" she says kind of smiling "What are you, stalking me?" and I just laugh it off, and we start talking about something else. Good sign/bad sign? Neither? Overall I seemed to be getting good vibes from her, but these 2 things kind of threw me off!
 

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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

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Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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yowhatsup

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Also, one more thing, if she and this loser boyfriend are sort of on the rocks, what should I do? I'd like to be with her, but I'm unsure what to do now, proceed as usual?
 

jesusrules

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hmm from what im reading I think she likes you man. If she didnt most likely she wouldnt have cared to hang out study or do whatever with you.

As far as if she has a boyfriend you need to find out man. Just ask her a question like so how long have you been with your b/f for?

if she is in the rocks with him who knows she may choose you. Hey I hope things go cool for you.
 

yowhatsup

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I don't want to be too blatant about the boyfriend issue, I don't think she knows that I think she has a boyfriend. I think I'll ask questions that will get her to bring it up.

"What do you do for fun?"
"what do you do on the weekends?" stuff like that where she might reply "Me and my boyfriend blah blah..." Then I'll find out more about it.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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yowhatsup

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I'm bumping this again, come on guys! i'm going to see her tommorow and need some opinions.
 

Play the Game

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yowhatsup said:
but I think I read somewhere in the bible that if the girl starts talking about how much of a loser her boyfriend is, that's a good sign for me?
That's not a good sign, that just means her boyfriend is a "jerk" who like to hang out with his friends. Doesn't sound like much of a loser to me. You're interpreting it as a good sign b/c you have a capt. save a h0 mentality.


yowhatsup said:
"What are you, stalking me?" and I just laugh it off, and we start talking about something else. Good sign/bad sign? Neither? Overall I seemed to be getting good vibes from her, but these 2 things kind of threw me off!
Sounds like she was joking, but there's a bit of truth in every joke. Don't intentionally try to find her. Stalker / Creepy guy is possibly lower than AFC.


Bit of Advice:

Stay away from her "girl talk" session or you'll turn into one of the girls.

Get some guy friends.

Go talk to 3 other girls.


If i had to guess where you stand with her, you're probably somewhere on the friends ladder w/ cuddle b1tch potential.
 

Sandow

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always assume the girl likes you....always
 

hbxdoode

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haha just go for it bro... what have you got to loose. ask her to go study or something tomorrow. as long as you get her to hang out with you, you got a chance. never know unless you try... good luck!!!
 

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When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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DJ#7436

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Your in friend zone, some serious game immediately could save you, but your pushing your time limit. You should have said "What are you stalking me?" before she did.

NewB
 

xdreamz

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just go for her man what is this worrying about some other dude stuff.... aren't you up for a challenge?
 
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