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good shoes for going out?

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So wearing a pair of blue jeans with a banana republic shirt paired with a blazer, what shoe is the best? Obviously its black but should it be oxfords or loafers? I have a pair of rockports shoes that are black currently.
 

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Maybe it's just because I'm required to wear oxfords all day, every day, but I don't think they're right for clubbing. In fact, they're about the furthest you can get from the "right" shoes.

Loafers work, or some generic "dressy" shoes, leather, and black. Most shoes that I've seen out of Rockport have been decent or good, so you can just stick with that, too.

Check out some fashion website or, failing that, something like askmen.com, if you want truly good advice.
 

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I'm going to have to say that it's a cross between shoe's that fit your feet and shoe's that are comfortable.
 

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Hyde said:
I'm going to have to say that it's a cross between shoe's that fit your feet and shoe's that are comfortable.
Of course, but honestly I feel more comfortable in sneakers, and they're not quite the best thing for clubbing--depending on where you go, of course.
 

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When I go out, I'm constantly torn between wearing shoes I love and look outlandishly awesome, and wearing shoes I'm okay with destroying. I have a pair of black and white winklepickers that are shot to sh¡t that I usually wear (essentially these). They're not comfortable, but I spent a year walking the cobblestones of Europe in worse, so my feet can take it.

Boots are good too, particularly tough ones. The nice thing is, with some polish you can get many years out of them and the longer you wear them the more comfortable they become.
 

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Retro Nike High Tops. Have gotten me into any disco (club) in Milan I have wanted to go into (VERY stylish among the hip Milan boys) and every disco in Kiev, Odessa, Riga, Vilnius, and Tallinn as well. Sweet Years, Baci E Abbracci, and D&G are nice brands for clothing style.

America/Canada just have AN ENTIRELY different sense of fashion. A&F - Enough Said. I don't party in those places. I usually just eat, sleep, and pray (that I will get out soon) when I am in those places.

Don't worry. Be who you are. That is what fashion is. It is showcasing who and what you are.
 

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Anything with a price tag of over $300 is good.
 

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seanchai said:
Maybe in Mars dollars.
I usually wear custom made shoes. Actually last couple of times I bought shoes in italy, paid with euros.
 

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ExploringOne said:
I usually wear custom made shoes. Actually last couple of times I bought shoes in italy, paid with euros.
That sounds good. You sound like you know what you're doing when it comes to clothing your feet; don't go equating price with value for the rest of these suckers! There are a LOT of shoes I wouldn't pay $30 for that cost well over $300.
 

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That sounds good. You sound like you know what you're doing when it comes to clothing your feet; don't go equating price with value for the rest of these suckers! There are a LOT of shoes I wouldn't pay $30 for that cost well over $300.
All too true. Fact is, you can't buy a good sense of style.

:edit: Scratch that, actually a couple of my friends ended up paying fashion consultants. Amazing what money can do...
 
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