So wearing a pair of blue jeans with a banana republic shirt paired with a blazer, what shoe is the best? Obviously its black but should it be oxfords or loafers? I have a pair of rockports shoes that are black currently.
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good shoes for going out?
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Maybe it's just because I'm required to wear oxfords all day, every day, but I don't think they're right for clubbing. In fact, they're about the furthest you can get from the "right" shoes.
Loafers work, or some generic "dressy" shoes, leather, and black. Most shoes that I've seen out of Rockport have been decent or good, so you can just stick with that, too.
Check out some fashion website or, failing that, something like askmen.com, if you want truly good advice.
Loafers work, or some generic "dressy" shoes, leather, and black. Most shoes that I've seen out of Rockport have been decent or good, so you can just stick with that, too.
Check out some fashion website or, failing that, something like askmen.com, if you want truly good advice.
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Of course, but honestly I feel more comfortable in sneakers, and they're not quite the best thing for clubbing--depending on where you go, of course.Hyde said:I'm going to have to say that it's a cross between shoe's that fit your feet and shoe's that are comfortable.
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When I go out, I'm constantly torn between wearing shoes I love and look outlandishly awesome, and wearing shoes I'm okay with destroying. I have a pair of black and white winklepickers that are shot to sh¡t that I usually wear (essentially these). They're not comfortable, but I spent a year walking the cobblestones of Europe in worse, so my feet can take it.
Boots are good too, particularly tough ones. The nice thing is, with some polish you can get many years out of them and the longer you wear them the more comfortable they become.
Boots are good too, particularly tough ones. The nice thing is, with some polish you can get many years out of them and the longer you wear them the more comfortable they become.
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Retro Nike High Tops. Have gotten me into any disco (club) in Milan I have wanted to go into (VERY stylish among the hip Milan boys) and every disco in Kiev, Odessa, Riga, Vilnius, and Tallinn as well. Sweet Years, Baci E Abbracci, and D&G are nice brands for clothing style.
America/Canada just have AN ENTIRELY different sense of fashion. A&F - Enough Said. I don't party in those places. I usually just eat, sleep, and pray (that I will get out soon) when I am in those places.
Don't worry. Be who you are. That is what fashion is. It is showcasing who and what you are.
America/Canada just have AN ENTIRELY different sense of fashion. A&F - Enough Said. I don't party in those places. I usually just eat, sleep, and pray (that I will get out soon) when I am in those places.
Don't worry. Be who you are. That is what fashion is. It is showcasing who and what you are.
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Anything with a price tag of over $300 is good.
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Maybe in Mars dollars.ExploringOne said:Anything with a price tag of over $300 is good.
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Be like me - go clubbing in leather sandals.
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I usually wear custom made shoes. Actually last couple of times I bought shoes in italy, paid with euros.seanchai said:Maybe in Mars dollars.
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That sounds good. You sound like you know what you're doing when it comes to clothing your feet; don't go equating price with value for the rest of these suckers! There are a LOT of shoes I wouldn't pay $30 for that cost well over $300.ExploringOne said:I usually wear custom made shoes. Actually last couple of times I bought shoes in italy, paid with euros.
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All too true. Fact is, you can't buy a good sense of style.seanchai said:That sounds good. You sound like you know what you're doing when it comes to clothing your feet; don't go equating price with value for the rest of these suckers! There are a LOT of shoes I wouldn't pay $30 for that cost well over $300.
:edit: Scratch that, actually a couple of my friends ended up paying fashion consultants. Amazing what money can do...
Uh..no..brown works just as well, sometimes better. Depends what you're wearing.warrior1 said:Obviously its black but should it be oxfords or loafers?
I've just bought a pair of these but in brown.
http://www.tedbaker.com/shop.do?cID=833&pID=1784