ThisIsSparta
Master Don Juan
Thats what a counselor would say.Also you are now revealing info where I can see how your wife is not satisfied with - well - you.
Her reaction is not constructive, it's destructive. She definitely tells you "I'm not content with your state of being, please be/do ..." when she calls you "idiot". It's an act of desperation. I'm not saying it's an intelligent act though.
Consider how you can make your life more satisfying (for yourself). Reach out to people who are helpful.
And the translation is: "well its not nice from your wife to say it that way, but it is true, you are the azzhole for putting the blame on this helpless women in her desperation to make you into the better man that she deserves."
Fvck that!
Women behaving like cvnts is not them being raw diamonds in need to be rescued by captain save a ho.
What you see is what you get and you are not going to change their character by buying into the happy wife/happy life narrative.