"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Started texting some girl I met at bar last week. A lil back and forth chat and I ask her to do something Wed. Her response "Umm I don't know yet"

Anything witty?

Sounds like a probable flake, but still worth a try.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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She does not find you good looking, or interesting move on. Sorry to be blunt but why waste your time on someone who needs to be talked into hanging out with you?
 

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vitor said:
She does not find you good looking, or interesting move on. Sorry to be blunt but why waste your time on someone who needs to be talked into hanging out with you?
Thanks but that's not what I was asking.

I even said, it probably ends up being a flake, but worth a shot.

She knows what I look like and was asking me questions about myself as we got talking. I just feel this may be lil resistance cuz she doesn't really know me. A smooth answer may help lower the resistance.

And how often do you find girls who are just ready to go out upon first meeting you or talking to you? Usually you have to show them something they don't see in every other ahole.
 

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TheBaconator said:
Started texting some girl I met at bar last week. A lil back and forth chat and I ask her to do something Wed. Her response "Umm I don't know yet"
Translation : I might go out with you if I'm bored and don't receive a better offer before then. If it were me I would have deleted her number the second after she sent that text.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Dust 2 Dust said:
Translation : I might go out with you if I'm bored and don't receive a better offer before then. If it were me I would have deleted her number the second after she sent that text.
Well that is the difference between us. I'd settle for being her second option if it results in some ass, don't really see much of a problem as long as im getting it.

Is it really that difficult to get advice on a text response on here?

It seems everytime I post something all I get is "give up man delete her number. Well by not doing that i've gotten laid a couple of times you fellas wouldn't have".
 

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Well that is the difference between us. I'd settle for being her second option if it results in some ass, don't really see much of a problem as long as im getting it.

Is it really that difficult to get advice on a text response on here?

It seems everytime I post something all I get is "give up man delete her number. Well by not doing that i've gotten laid a couple of times you fellas wouldn't have".
If you're always fine with being a second option for girls then you're not gonna get any because they WILL find someone better than some guy who likes being second choice.

As for your original question, i'd say "Well i'm doing ____, if you wanna come down hit me up." Then whatever you do, don't text her or call her until she contacts you. If she never does, forget about it.
 

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lol, read the thread about " don't say, maybe we can hang out sometime"

You have to den00bify/de-afcify yourself.

Na couldn't find it. But I didn't say anything along the lines of "maybe we can hang out sometime". I asked her to do something Wed night and then she responded with that.

I didn't even respond so this is all irrelevant now anyway.
 

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ask her if she wants to come along to something you already doing, with or without her.

eg. me and some friends are going to X bar thursday night, want to come?

or im going shopping on wednesday to X supermarket, want to tag along and get some coffee after?

its a way to take the pressure off and you look like less of a penis if she says no.

And when u ask out a girl dont say 'want to do something?', propose an actual plan. It at least sounds interesting and less whiny, be more confident.

In response if you havent said anything yet, u can use the 'well im doing X on wednesday- come along', or ignore and forget for a while and try again asking her out more directly another time.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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