"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Good response for a girl who said she was looking for me

teddy

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Was at a party and this girl said she had been looking for me. She was surprised to see me, but apparently she had been waiting for me to arrive and even texted me to ask where I was (but I was too busy to realize I got a text from her).

So when she found me she ran up and hugged me and said I could have at least responded to her text or told her I was there so that she could at least see me.

Best response I could think of was, "Oh geez, don't be so clingy."

But....are there any good ones out there? Had a hard time thinking of one on the spot since the ego boost felt too good.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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adam225

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You're on the right path bro. You need to ditch the ego mindset and not be bothered. The less bothered you are, the more she'll work to get your attention (if she's genuinely interested in you).

The bottom line - make her do all the work whilst you sit back and enjoy the show. ;)
 

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teddy said:
Best response I could think of was, "Oh geez, don't be so clingy." But....are there any good ones out there? Had a hard time thinking of one on the spot since the ego boost felt too good.
You're implying that was something wrong with the answer you gave her. Personally, I feel it was fine.
 

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adam225 said:
You're on the right path bro. You need to ditch the ego mindset and not be bothered. The less bothered you are, the more she'll work to get your attention (if she's genuinely interested in you).

The bottom line - make her do all the work whilst you sit back and enjoy the show. ;)

Yeah, the ego thing is a problem, but because of it, I appeared "not bothered" since all I gave her was that answer and that was it. When she tried to prod me more, I couldn't think of anything so I didn't say anything.
 

teddy

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Maximus Rex said:
You're implying that was something wrong with the answer you gave her. Personally, I feel it was fine.
Okay, I wasn't sure if it was the best response, it was the only thing I could think of.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Why are you so concerned about saying the "right" thing.

Just act like its no big deal, happens often, and let your ego cool
 
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