so this new girl started at my work and she's been very flirtatious, pressing up against me, grabbing my arm, tons of kino. She is training to be a boss in the company eventually so I'm like should I go for it. I got her number the other day we haven't worked together much recently but we do work together a lot after this week. I'm wondering how should I proceed?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
good problem at work
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Maximus Rex
Banned
Hell Why Not.
Only if you don't give a flying eff about your job security. Go ahead, have at it.dice said:
Albatross953
Master Don Juan
If you're spinning plates, just looking for a fling, etc its dangerous. If you plan on going full AFC and going slow, a lot of guys meet their wives at work.
Overall though, probably a really bad idea.
Overall though, probably a really bad idea.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
abe0
Senior Don Juan
Same advice as Rex....stay away from office romance. Its is a loose loose situation. What happens when she is pissed off at you ...or you dump her cause she pissed you off...and you have to see her at work the next day? Can't people think beyond the next day and their d*ck? Only exception is if a company is soooooo big you work buildings away and never in contact with them at work.
Abe
Abe
Bingo-Player
Master Don Juan
how many women work at your job and how involved is she with them ?
you'd be very surprised at how quickly women can turn other women against you and in an office environment it can be toxic
if you must proceed
show extremely little - no interest in work , don't be cold but just don't give any indication your interested in her goods
make your move on a works night out after plenty of drinks
you'd be very surprised at how quickly women can turn other women against you and in an office environment it can be toxic
if you must proceed
show extremely little - no interest in work , don't be cold but just don't give any indication your interested in her goods
make your move on a works night out after plenty of drinks
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The thing I find about 'attractive' women in work is that the attraction arises from a) over-exposure to that one individual, hence ease of constant prolonged access and consequent familiarity and, b) under-exposure to other individuals, hence the one individual becomes 'the best of a bad bunch'.
Out in the wider world, that one individual in large external group, she'd likely fade in to the crowd. She would likely behave quite differently. People are generally more confident and comfortable personalities at work because they are familiar.
I currently have a stalker at work. Awww-Kwarrrd.
Out in the wider world, that one individual in large external group, she'd likely fade in to the crowd. She would likely behave quite differently. People are generally more confident and comfortable personalities at work because they are familiar.
I currently have a stalker at work. Awww-Kwarrrd.