"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I have a weird situation with my life at the moment. I bought a house with my ex-g/f, and we broke up, unfortunatley we were both on the mortgage, and neither of us would move out. At the time she said she would live there for a few months and move back to Chicago in June, which she is doing. A few weeks ago I started dating another girl, caused a lot of hassle at home which was expected. Me ex is moving next week and we had some bad news about one of our dogs, which she is keeping, anyway turned out to be good news. This has made my ex really happy but also she has come to realise that we will not see each other again. So, this morning she comes into my room, saying she is sad and will miss me blah blah. So, we ended up having sex. I did want to, I would be lieing if I said otherwise, sex is sex after all.

The thing is I didn't want to cheat on my new girl, but I have such history with my ex. She has been such a crazy cat the last month I don't know if she is going to use this against me, or whether she wanted a good bye shag. I am just confused, I am still not sure about this new girl, but she is crazy for me so I am carrying it on to see what happens.

Maybe I am just venting, but also a little worried.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Originally posted by MoonieTX

Maybe I am just venting, but also a little worried.
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Well she'll move to Chicago and you will be dating the other girl.
What exactly you are worried about?
 
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Well she'll move to Chicago and you will be dating the other girl.
What exactly you are worried about?


That the ex is playing me and will tell the other girl.
 
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Originally posted by MoonieTX
Well she'll move to Chicago and you will be dating the other girl.
What exactly you are worried about?


That the ex is playing me and will tell the other girl.
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Well, it seems like sex isn't sex when there could be repercussions about it.

You had better not piss off your ex until she is physically out of the picture if you want to keep things in tact with your new girl. Also, don't lay on the trip of ever telling your new girl about your indiscretions for the sake of "honesty in the relationship." This is a lot of BS to mask guilt. Telling her would not improve the relationship what so ever, but you weren't going to tell her, right?
 
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Originally posted by MoonieTX
Well she'll move to Chicago and you will be dating the other girl.
What exactly you are worried about?


That the ex is playing me and will tell the other girl.
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Does your ex know your new gf? How she would tell her?

Anyway, if somehow she will get that you had sex with your ex...
confront her with the concept of being exlusive: "We were dating...I like you and I want to be exlusive with you now".
Dont appologize to her - it will not change anything but will show your AFC side.
Just show yourself as somebody desired by many women, sombody who knows concepts of dating and who wants to be exclusive with her.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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If it does get back to the new girl, all you have to do is deny it. You can say that your ex is angry and trying to sabotage your new relationship. Your new girl will believe it if she wants to believe it.

Now stop getting with your ex-girlfriends. You shouldn't have to open graves to find girls to have sex with.
 
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Thanks guy, I think I just needed backing up. Most of the suggestions I had already thought threw but was 2nd guessing myself.
 
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