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[MoonieTX]

I have a weird situation with my life at the moment. I bought a house with my ex-g/f, and we broke up, unfortunatley we were both on the mortgage, and neither of us would move out. At the time she said she would live there for a few months and move back to Chicago in June, which she is doing. A few weeks ago I started dating another girl, caused a lot of hassle at home which was expected. Me ex is moving next week and we had some bad news about one of our dogs, which she is keeping, anyway turned out to be good news. This has made my ex really happy but also she has come to realise that we will not see each other again. So, this morning she comes into my room, saying she is sad and will miss me blah blah. So, we ended up having sex. I did want to, I would be lieing if I said otherwise, sex is sex after all.

The thing is I didn't want to cheat on my new girl, but I have such history with my ex. She has been such a crazy cat the last month I don't know if she is going to use this against me, or whether she wanted a good bye shag. I am just confused, I am still not sure about this new girl, but she is crazy for me so I am carrying it on to see what happens.

Maybe I am just venting, but also a little worried.

 

[al77]

Originally posted by MoonieTX

Maybe I am just venting, but also a little worried.

Well she'll move to Chicago and you will be dating the other girl.
What exactly you are worried about?

 

[MoonieTX]

Well she'll move to Chicago and you will be dating the other girl.
What exactly you are worried about?


That the ex is playing me and will tell the other girl.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by MoonieTX
Well she'll move to Chicago and you will be dating the other girl.
What exactly you are worried about?


That the ex is playing me and will tell the other girl.

Well, it seems like sex isn't sex when there could be repercussions about it.

You had better not piss off your ex until she is physically out of the picture if you want to keep things in tact with your new girl. Also, don't lay on the trip of ever telling your new girl about your indiscretions for the sake of "honesty in the relationship." This is a lot of BS to mask guilt. Telling her would not improve the relationship what so ever, but you weren't going to tell her, right?

 

[al77]

Originally posted by MoonieTX
Well she'll move to Chicago and you will be dating the other girl.
What exactly you are worried about?


That the ex is playing me and will tell the other girl.

Does your ex know your new gf? How she would tell her?

Anyway, if somehow she will get that you had sex with your ex...
confront her with the concept of being exlusive: "We were dating...I like you and I want to be exlusive with you now".
Dont appologize to her - it will not change anything but will show your AFC side.
Just show yourself as somebody desired by many women, sombody who knows concepts of dating and who wants to be exclusive with her.

 

[Desdinova]

As long as you get her name off the mortgage and change the locks, you shouldn't have any problems.

 

[DrDope]

If it does get back to the new girl, all you have to do is deny it. You can say that your ex is angry and trying to sabotage your new relationship. Your new girl will believe it if she wants to believe it.

Now stop getting with your ex-girlfriends. You shouldn't have to open graves to find girls to have sex with.

 

[MoonieTX]

Thanks guy, I think I just needed backing up. Most of the suggestions I had already thought threw but was 2nd guessing myself.