She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Yeah its funny my color preferences now. I used to like lighter color jeans but prefer darker mostly but honestly not sure the style rules anymore.Gap jeans are good; Old Navy ideal if you are on a budget. Banana Republic if you are balling.
I like them straight. Get whatever is comfortable for you and medium wash since it is more versatile since you can dress it up or down.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Hey Ricky! How have you been?yeah i have an athletic build from lifting so my butt is kind of big
penkitten are you related to the original penkitten that used to be on here and married another poster. If so welcome back! Ive been on and off here since 2002 or so
Let me guess....you're a grandma now?Hey Ricky! How have you been?
And yes it's me.
Doing ok. I have had a rough few years since 2020 with marriage issues and lost some family members and friends so that brought me back to here and some other support groupsHey Ricky! How have you been?
And yes it's me.
Yes.Let me guess....you're a grandma now?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Sorry to hear about the rough years. We all go through them. Glad to see you back here!Doing ok. I have had a rough few years since 2020 with marriage issues and lost some family members and friends so that brought me back to here and some other support groups
My old jeans are also better quality to this flimsy material that is on the market today. Nothing is made to last anymore.I used to swear by Levi (and still own a lot of Levis). That being said, the quality of Levis has gone down through the years (I'm more impressed with my older Levis than my newer Levis)
Amazon brand jeans are good. I own a decent amount. Seriously, Amazon brand is much better than it sounds.
I also have a pair of Old Navy jeans I bought in 2016. The fact they're still holding up says it all.
Plus, the newer Levis wrinkle easier (in my experience)My old jeans are also better quality to this flimsy material that is on the market today. Nothing is made to last anymore.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I did a pretty major wardrobe overhaul when I was 25 (am currently 33)I ended up getting some Banana Republic jeans. They are quite comfortable, then i looked in my previous jeans and saw i had a pair as well from one waist size larger. I'll definitely be trying out some different jeans. Upgrading my wardrobe bit by bit. Feels good to get some new shirts, shoes and pants.
Anything you buy, expect it to last you about a year. I rock 5.11 defender flex.2024. What brands
I have jeans lasting me 4+ years. Buy quality and not what's the trend right now and you'll be golden.Anything you buy, expect it to last you about a year. I rock 5.11 defender flex.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.