Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Good hobbies/ ways to socialise?

parkthebus

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So far I have:

Learning a language.
Reading.
Learning an instrument.
Playing sports.
Watching sports.
Bars/clubs.
Becoming a sports umpire.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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writing poetry, acting, playing guitar and singing are what get the women, in US. If you don't want to be bothered, go get a third world woman. There's thousands of very highly desirable women who will do almost anything to come to the USA.
 

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writing poetry, acting, playing guitar and singing are what get the women, in US. If you don't want to be bothered, go get a third world woman. There's thousands of very highly desirable women who will do almost anything to come to the USA.
I'm actually doing it for reasons other than impressing females. I just split up with my mrs' and moved into my own place, realising I don't have any friends in the country I've moved to and nothing to pass the time.
 

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I've had luck with:

toastmasters
acting class at local community college
cooking class
yoga class
volunteering

toastmasters is excellent, as there are new people every week (most people bail out) and there's usually some core group hanging out afterwards. It's also a great way to boost your self confidence. There's also likely a lot if you live in a decent sized city, so you can check out a bunch, to find the right fit.

Then there's also the support group circuit like in Fight Club.
 

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Magic The Gathering (Abroad)... I'm finding the local nerds who play boardgames are insufferable SJW ****s.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Reading, learning languages, and learning an instrument are largely solitary pursuits. Music and Languages can get you out more once you're better though. I made a lot of friends while playing at various folk jams in my area.

Most people make their friends at work or the bar. Maybe golfing at the club if you are older and richer. Probably mountain biking/cycling if you are younger and richer. And watching sports and playing fantasy football if you are poorer. That's a hard and fast rule not completely accurate.
 
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Reading, learning languages, and learning an instrument are largely solitary pursuits. Music and Languages can get you out more once you're better though. I made a lot of friends while playing at various folk jams in my area.

Most people make their friends at work or the bar. Maybe golfing at the club if you are older and richer. Probably mountain biking/cycling if you are younger and richer. And watching sports and playing fantasy football if you are poorer. That's a hard and fast rule not completely accurate.
How do you play fantasy football in a social context?
 

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It's something for guys to talk about. Fantasy players can yack for hours about how their team did.

I know a couple fantasy leagues that meet in bars for drafts/trades/sh!ttalking.
 

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It's something for guys to talk about. Fantasy players can yack for hours about how their team did.

I know a couple fantasy leagues that meet in bars for drafts/trades/sh!ttalking.
Is this American footy though?
 

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Dance classes are pretty good, but it takes a while. The reason is that most people show up right before class starts and leave as soon as it ends. So there isn't a lot of time to chat, but the point is that you become a regular and people become comfortable with you. Then you run into the same people at social dances or other events and you're "in."
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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