"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Hey guys, so I have a question for all of you which I think might help me. So today I was with my boss who happens to be a very attractive woman. We teach tennis together and she is the manager/person in charge whereas I'm the number two. Anyway, we went out to lunch and it was pretty good, I was making her laugh and we were talking about stuff. During the day, I had this feeling, the feeling that we were really close in our personal spaces and I could have leaned over and kissed her if I felt up to it. I didn't and the moment passed, no big deal.

Anyway, she drove me back to my apartment and as we were arriving, I felt that feeling coming up again. Now, I'm sure that if I had the courage/balls/cahunas I could have leaned over to her as she dropped me off and kissed her, but I kinda just slowly left. I knew she kinda wanted the kiss but I didn't go for it. Is there still the option later or is there some kind of time limit where if I didn't kiss her when I had the chance then I no longer can. Also, what do girls usually think after the first kiss? Thanks in advance.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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You may want to try, if you haven't already, gradually escalating things first with by trying kino (brushing her hand, putting arms around her, touching, etc) before going in for the kiss. This will give you the opportunity to see how she reacts (ie if she reciprocates) and gives you a better idea of the situation instead of relying on your "feeling".
 

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seagull said:
You may want to try, if you haven't already, gradually escalating things first with by trying kino (brushing her hand, putting arms around her, touching, etc) before going in for the kiss. This will give you the opportunity to see how she reacts (ie if she reciprocates) and gives you a better idea of the situation instead of relying on your "feeling".
I say it's too soon for that. He needs to get her into a situation where it's not boss/employee. Hmmm, maybe the next time she drives him home he should thank her and offer her in and share a pizza delivery with him. They can get to know one another by talking about things other than work which would be a better indicator of her interest other than just 'feeling it' in a situation that doesn't support it.
 
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Because you know each othe through your work you shouldn't go romantic unless you officially ask her out - she will be more receptive to your advances then, if she is interested!
 
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