"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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pg5781

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A little background first…..

This new gym has opened up near my apartment so I’ve been going there since its grand opening in January. When I first started, I noticed this HB8.5 who works there as a sales rep. I usually don’t like to pick up chicks at the gym since I go there to get my workout in and not for the social aspect of it, so I never went for an approach.

Anyway, so my friend who also goes there, began dating a girl whose friends with this HB8.5. He told me that the HB8.5 has complained to his new girlfriend that she cant find a guy and that all the guys she meets are jerks, etc. So one day my friend and his girlfriend are at the gym and they tell her about me and say that she should meet me (at this time I didn’t know what they were doing). So they have this computer system at the gym where they have a picture of each member for security reasons so the HB8.5 asked them my name so she can look at my picture.

A couple of days later I’m at the gym working out with my friend and he tells me that he wants to hook me up with the HB8.5. He told me that he showed her my picture and that she said I was hot and she noticed me from back when I started. He said he will introduce me to her and I said fine, but he recently got a new job and hasn’t been going to the gym at the same time as me so im on my own with the approach.

This was last week and I haven’t seen her since then so I haven’t made the approach. I’m sure I will see her this week and I want to talk to her. Tell me what you guys think of this (remember, we have never spoken to each other):

Me: Hey how’s it going
Her: hi (or whatever)
Me: So I hear you’ve been a) dying to meet me or b) dying to talk to me (said with a sly smirk)
Her: (either laughs, makes a playful response, or slaps me across the face)

Do you guys think this is a good approach or does it come off as trying too hard??? I’ve used this twice in similar situations before with success, bc it usually sets a playful tone to the conversation and makes it seem like she is chasing me. I think this might work even better in this situation, bc the interest is there and we both know that our friends are trying to set us up. Do you guys have any other suggestions that are better??
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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IF she's already attracted to you, just walk over to her and start talking about anything. Don't mention your freind, don't even assume any knowlege about her. If you just start talking to someone like you've been in a conversation with them they react quite well. Try it. Then just say, "It'd be cool to hangout sometime. I know a place..."
 

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Originally posted by Reach
IF she's already attracted to you, just walk over to her and start talking about anything. Don't mention your freind, don't even assume any knowlege about her. If you just start talking to someone like you've been in a conversation with them they react quite well. Try it.
excellent
 

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Thanks for the reply. I understand what you mean but that’s where I have a problem with an approach. It makes me more nervous at first when I’m trying to make normal conversation during the approach. When I approach with the example I gave in the first post, it relieves the tension on both sides and makes the conversation flow a lot better. Do you guys think my approach in the first post is too forward or too aggressive??
 

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If she wants to meet you, and she told your friend that, as soon as you come up to her, she's gonna KNOW why you're there. And she's ALREADY expressed interest. Just flow, man. Relax, turn up the charm, and FLOW. And get them digits. ;)
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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You seem like a cool guy and I appreciate where your coming from with nerves.

But all you have to do is go other near her in a confident manner, either directly or indirectly, then say something like "Hows it going?" Ever watch Joey in freinds? Your in his position.
 
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