Gone Cold?

[MartyMcFly]

So I've been seeing this girl... And well I'm not sure how to put this, a while back I expressed that I would like to make our relationship exclusive to eachother and she said she isn't ready for that yet since her last bf.. blah blah whatever other bs girls sell you when they turn you down, we keep seeing eachother and everything is going great, then... like 2 days ago, I hear nothing from her at all, no calls no texts, nothing. I sent out a feeler and she'd respond as if nothing was wrong? I'm probably overanalyzing it but I don't know. What should I do? Should I go dark and see what happens or just chalk it up as she was busy.

 

[trrush]

stop trying to get girls into relationships, that's their job, to get you into a relationship.
This is what happens when guys try to take the chic role.
if your gut is telling you something's not right, then it probably isn't. but what you gunna do? you cant force her, so you might as well occupy yourself with someone/thing else.

 

[Iceberg]

stop trying to get girls into relationships, that's their job, to get you into a relationship.
This is what happens when guys try to take the chic role.
if your gut is telling you something's not right, then it probably isn't. but what you gunna do? you cant force her, so you might as well occupy yourself with someone/thing else.

Exactly. If the sex is good and she's showing up to dates when you ask her to, then there's no need to try to pin a girl into a "title".

And if the sex isn't good or she's not showing up when you ask her out (or being disrespectful), then you should have dumped her anyway.

No good comes from a man asking the girl about their "relationship status". It's just not our role.

 

[bigneil]

"A while back I expressed that I would like to make our relationship exclusive to eachother"

A man should never ask a woman to be exclusive. The woman needs to ask, otherwise the man will never know. Also, the woman always has more options so she is giving up more in a way. There are many other reasons for this but it's a good rule of thumb.

Sadly, it's most likely not a coincidence that she vanished after saying she won't be exclusive.

It's time for No Contact for about 2 weeks or until she contacts you 3 straight times.

 

[MartyMcFly]

Sounds like a plan guys. Thanks for the advice. I knew better than to pin the title. I guess I got impatient. I'll give the No contact thing a shot.

 

[LoneWolf]

cool, interesting thread... just what i was looking for. yeah i wasn't sure myself about this but i had a feeling us guys are not meant to do that. i got the whole sex, girl showing up to dates thing happening with my girl atm so i'm just gonna leave it be.

 

[crazyboy]

Yeah i was in this situation once i had everything going good. Until i was like where is this going. The minute that insecurity came out mouth everything went downhill. I had this girl in palm of my hand too smh. You need to start going no contact or contacting her only once a week like when you first started dating. So she can miss you and want to hang out with you. This when plate theory come in. Because your are going devople a oneits, so going have to find something else to put your attentions , while your try to get back with girl you really want.

 

[BadNews]

You sound really REALLY desperate and needy to me...and probably to her as well. THIS IS A HUGE TURN OFF FOR WOMEN! STOP RIGHT NOW! You should NEVER EVER bring up 'where the relationship is going', that is HER job.

Also "like 2 days ago, I hear nothing from her at all, no calls no texts, nothing". So you don't hear from her for a day or two? Who gives a crap? If shes into you, she'll call. You can't force it on her. Maybe she was busy, maybe she is sick of you, maybe she was testing you to see exactly how needy you are.

You need to take a breath, and just relax. Maybe grab yourself a glass of water. Don't force things, or it will only end poorly for you as you'll only push her away. Remain calm and collected, and let things play out how they play out!

 

[MartyMcFly]

You sound really REALLY desperate and needy to me...and probably to her as well. THIS IS A HUGE TURN OFF FOR WOMEN! STOP RIGHT NOW! You should NEVER EVER bring up 'where the relationship is going', that is HER job.

Also "like 2 days ago, I hear nothing from her at all, no calls no texts, nothing". So you don't hear from her for a day or two? Who gives a crap? If shes into you, she'll call. You can't force it on her. Maybe she was busy, maybe she is sick of you, maybe she was testing you to see exactly how needy you are.

You need to take a breath, and just relax. Maybe grab yourself a glass of water. Don't force things, or it will only end poorly for you as you'll only push her away. Remain calm and collected, and let things play out how they play out!

While this may be harsh. I appreciate it. I guess I lost my way when I got involved with her. I'll take your guys advice because it's worked for me in the past. Thanks again.

 

[dementia]

Why buy the cow etc etc ?