"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Golf is the most frustrating game....

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Took it up about 3 years ago, finally got a lesson this year. All that did was show me how good I COULD be at times. Rarely do I hit the same from day to day. Rarely do I have the same problems day in day out. It pisses me off to no fvcking end. I guess you just have to hit balls every friggin' day to get good at it.

After three years and LEGITIMATE scoring, I'm still a 20 handicap. Anger surely does not help when you're on the course. I just don't see why it's so hard to hit a stationary little ball.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Forget about obtaining consistency that you will be happy with. Just when you seem to have it down, something unidentifiable changes in your swing and you're back to trying to figure out a way to correct for it. I think that very few people obtain consistency, or at least it takes lots of years.

I just played a round tonight and I was absolutely terriible, yet last week I had my best round ever. I seem to have a way to detach my emotions from the game so when I have a bad round I'm unaffected. There's always that one great shot that brings us back for more, eh?
 

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Atom Smasher said:
I seem to have a way to detach my emotions from the game so when I have a bad round I'm unaffected.
Teach me.

Atom Smasher said:
There's always that one great shot that brings us back for more, eh?
That's the damnable misery of it.
 

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I live in a golf community so I go and hit balls pretty regularly. I've gotten better, but the people I play with are all the higher-ups in my company who've been playing for decades and just bury me. I've learned that when I go out and play solo I tend to play better and learn more because the pressure to perform is off, but when I'm playing with others I tend to choke more. Play solo for a while and see if that helps.
 

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^^ I too have found that when I play solo I play a lot better. Also when I get into a regular routine of playing I improve.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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