I obviously wanna become more toned and strong so I've been going to gym but all my life I put on size quite quickly and it's annoyingly for one reason. I don't want to be big. I obviously want to be to ed and muscular but I feel like I'm heading towards the body builder type thing which isn't what I want. Is there a way to increase strength with weight without becoming big.
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Going to sound dumb asf but how do you avoid getting big.
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Yes, eat less. Size is directly correlated with caloric intake.
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There is no such thing as “too big” for a natural. Your body has its own genetic limit.
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At the end of the day, none of this is needed. The only thing needed is to consume fewer calories which limits your ability to build muscle.
But wouldn't that limit how much strength I'm gaining because it impacts muscle growth ?
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So will all the other things. You want a magic solution that gives you both but there isn't one.
