“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Going to see my woman this weekend

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Well guys I'm set to go see my woman this weekend. This saturday is the first time she hasn't had to work and its her birthday. Pretty cool that she wants to spend it with me. :D Past history we have gone out 8 times now including, dinner, movies (theater and renting), a dinner theater, trip to the zoo (great place for Kino) and making dinner for her. She is 23 and I'm 31.

We've been dating now for two and a half months. She now lives an hour away and its actually been three weeks since I've seen her last. (sucks) That is primarily due to her schedule as she is a medical student who just started her hospital rotations. Since she has been really busy (LONG HOURS) I have kept a low profile and contacted her occasionally. Every time I have contacted her she has responded by an email or a phone call. (good sign)

She told me on the phone that I could drive up early Sat. morning or come and stay the night Fri. night that way I won't have to drive early Sat. morning. (******** translation - I want you to come up Fri. eve.) She is pretty tired and expressed wanting to stay home for a quiet evening Fri. so we're planning to make dinner together. Her female roommates will be out of town too. As far as birthday plans go, all I really have is a dinner reservation for Sat. eve. I'm sure I will think of something for Saturday day.

I bought a birthday card that more or less says, "Happy Birthday to a special person." Definitely didnt want to get a card that read anything about friends. heh. Got her a nice gift that I think she will like. Nothing big but shows I put some thought into it. I may get a small bouquet of flowers and/or a happy birthday balloon as well. I'm sure some of you will say nay to the flowers.

The TALK may come up this weekend about being exclusive. She tends to ask the fabled question, "What are you thinking?" a lot. She is giving me all the good signs at this point so we will see what happens. We have seemed to click so far.

Any thoughts as far as an action date for Saturday during the day and should I get a few flowers and/or a happy birthday balloon?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Thats a big negative good buddy. Lots of making out and thats been it. Supposedly she is a V and wants to wait until she is married. We will see what happens.
 

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Well, she called me tonight at 9:30. SWEET SHE CALLED ME AGAIN!! Called me Sunday and now Wednesday! (funny thing is I had just emailed her) She had just gotten out of her rotation at the hospital. Bad thing is I was getting ready to leave to go see War of the Worlds. I didn't want to cut her off so we talked for twenty minutes until she got home.

I felt bad that I had to go, but I finally said "Lindsay, Im going to have to go. Im supposed to go see a movie tonight with Brian and some friends so I need to leave." Her response was, "Oh ok. Well I found my roommate now so I can talk to her." I added, "I'm sorry I have to let you go because I would like to talk to you." She said, "Oh, that's fine go ahead and go and have fun tonight."

Sucks but oh well what can you do. Good thing is she called. Anyway, I think I will email her now that I'm back. Something like sorry for not getting to finish talking. Went to see War of the Worlds, etc. Hmm should I email or just call her tomorrow evening? Thing is if I call we may talk about things we can talk about on Friday evening. Thoughts?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Just got back and we had a great weekend.

I drove up Friday afternoon and we made dinner. Afterwards we made out on the couch. My hand adventured the great range known as her Grand Teetons. WOWZA! Sat. we got up and basically didnt do a thing all day except watch a movie and go to dinner. Had an interesting conversation. That night a classmate of hers came over and talked to my date, her roommate and I. Went ahead and stayed Sat. night and we made out again on the couch and I played with her boobs again. :) It was about 12:30 am now and we were heading to bed. As we passed in the hallway and said goodnight we made out again for another half hour up against the door casing of the bathroom which was right outside her roommates door. I was sporting a chubby and she could tell. We both had our pjs on so there isnt much restricting me from bulging out. I was practically poking her right at the same level as her pu**y. We are standing there and she starts rubbing herself against me and moaning. We banged our hips together and grinded. She would stand on her tip toes so I would rub up against her. It was fvcking great! :-O

All this from a girl who told me not to expect much from her on a physcial level. I guess that went out the window quickly! I was pretty surprised but I knew I needed to bring sex into our relationship a little more.
:woo:
 

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Oh yeah, she asked me "What are you thinking?" again. I simply said You. She smiled and said good and never asked me again. A conversation came up between her roommate, my date and I about a past bf of hers. They were talking about how several of her friends didnt like her bf. Her roommate looked at me smiled and said, "Don't worry, I like you a lot ARK." So her roommate, which is one of her close friends, thinks good things of me.

Oh since it was her birthday I got her a birthday cake, card and a gift. She liked it all!
 

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I forgot to mention, she said from now on, whenever we go out to eat you have to tell me something about you. Following the advice on this site I've been pretty tight lipped about myself. Just asking her things about her career and schooling since she is a medical student. I know a lot about her family now as well. For me though, I often stumble when she asks me to tell her about me. Often Im kinda dumbfounded. I did well though because I told her about my friends and how long Ive known them and how we all met. Basically we worked together. I think that pacified her for the time being. We talked about a few other aspects of my life as well.

I dont know though I have a hard time of telling someone about myself. Anyone else have this problem or have any thoughts on how I can express myself more.. yet not tell her everything so I can still be mysterious?
 

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Originally posted by ARK
All this from a girl who told me not to expect much from her on a physcial level. I guess that went out the window quickly!
haha...I find your upbeatness refreshing. good lord, 31 years old and you're excited about feeling a girl up at 2 1/2 months.

good for you mate.
 

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I think my excitedness is coming from her huge cans. Definitely the biggest I've ever played with. :D
All this from a girl who told me not to expect much from her on a physcial level.
Oh yeah, I guess its true.. actions do speak louder than words. She was practically rubbing her pu**y on my chubby and then she started humping me.:cheer:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Where the heck is SuperGigaloDJ, BrotherAP and Lost in Translation?? Wonder what they think now after reading this. :woo:
 

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Yeah, I always saw her as wanting to take it slow, but I can definitely see that happening. :)

Truthfully, Im beginning to think she is not a virgin after all. She seemed to know what she was doing when she was up against that wall.
 

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Well after that awesome weekend my girl called me Tuesday night and last night. Her interest level seems to have gone up quite a bit. She was beginning to call me more than I called her before the weekend and now she is calling me a lot more.

Tuesday she called to tell me how the rest of her weekend was. She told me about a classmate of hers that also fell asleep when her bf came to see her. In her little way she probably felt bad for falling asleep when I was with her and was reconfirming to me that she was sorry. (she is a medical student) I felt as if she called for the sole purpose of hearing my voice. I asked her about doing something the weekend of the 16th and the 23rd and even though she didnt know her schedule she immediately said yes to both!

Last night she called again and we talked about our day at work, etc. I am beginning to tell that she has feelings for me. I mean she called me twice in a row! Both times we talk about various things and she ends up laying in bed talking to me and eventually going to sleep right after we hang up.

Guys, I think this site has really helped me with this relationship. I couldn't be more thankful to everyones input I have gotten. This relationship can only more forward from here. Thank you!:woo:
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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