So my current gf is 18 and Im almost 23, and obviously she wants me to go to her prom. I personally dont want to because I think prom should be a once in a lifetime thing, plus Ill be the oldest person there, minus the teachers.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Going to Prom...5 Years after mine.
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Kailex
Master Don Juan
So you want to ruin her experience, simply because you already had your own?
Hey, look, if you don't want to go... fine.
But don't be complaining when she takes someone else and then you're left wondering if she's banging him or not. Have it your way, but be ready to disappoint your girlfriend if you decide not to go. And who cares if you're the oldest one there? The likelihood of you ever seeing any of those people again is very, VERY slim.
If you don't go.. she DOES deserve to still go and even have a date, even if it's not you.
Hey, look, if you don't want to go... fine.
But don't be complaining when she takes someone else and then you're left wondering if she's banging him or not. Have it your way, but be ready to disappoint your girlfriend if you decide not to go. And who cares if you're the oldest one there? The likelihood of you ever seeing any of those people again is very, VERY slim.
If you don't go.. she DOES deserve to still go and even have a date, even if it's not you.
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You've been asked on a date! You don't know how good you got it right now.
Stop that insecure sentimental journey sh*t and go with her. If everyone else is staring at you, just put yourself in the mindset that says that everyone else in there hasn't seen a more gorgeous couple.
Remember that people are gonna talk about you until the day you die and there ain't sh*t you can do about it. Live your life how you so desire. F**k what a hater has to say about you. I had some witty comebacks for the occasion, you should too. Be courageous.
Case closed.
Stop that insecure sentimental journey sh*t and go with her. If everyone else is staring at you, just put yourself in the mindset that says that everyone else in there hasn't seen a more gorgeous couple.
Remember that people are gonna talk about you until the day you die and there ain't sh*t you can do about it. Live your life how you so desire. F**k what a hater has to say about you. I had some witty comebacks for the occasion, you should too. Be courageous.
Case closed.
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I just went to my own prom and one of my 18 year old friends brought her 22 year old boyfriend. Was a complete non-issue and we all had a great time. So really, just go and have fun. Plus she'd feel really left out without someone to bang afterward.
Sir Psycho Sexy
Senior Don Juan
I was in your position this year and decided to not go.
She ended up going with a friend, had a great time.
The high schoolers will talk sh1t behind your back but that shouldnt matter.
All that matters is if YOU want to go or not.
She ended up going with a friend, had a great time.
The high schoolers will talk sh1t behind your back but that shouldnt matter.
All that matters is if YOU want to go or not.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
War Against Betaism
Master Don Juan
Why does it matter how many times one should go to a prom? My friend went to 4 different proms, in the same year, and he enjoyed them all.