So my current gf is 18 and Im almost 23, and obviously she wants me to go to her prom. I personally dont want to because I think prom should be a once in a lifetime thing, plus Ill be the oldest person there, minus the teachers.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Going to Prom...5 Years after mine.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Kailex
Master Don Juan
So you want to ruin her experience, simply because you already had your own?
Hey, look, if you don't want to go... fine.
But don't be complaining when she takes someone else and then you're left wondering if she's banging him or not. Have it your way, but be ready to disappoint your girlfriend if you decide not to go. And who cares if you're the oldest one there? The likelihood of you ever seeing any of those people again is very, VERY slim.
If you don't go.. she DOES deserve to still go and even have a date, even if it's not you.
Hey, look, if you don't want to go... fine.
But don't be complaining when she takes someone else and then you're left wondering if she's banging him or not. Have it your way, but be ready to disappoint your girlfriend if you decide not to go. And who cares if you're the oldest one there? The likelihood of you ever seeing any of those people again is very, VERY slim.
If you don't go.. she DOES deserve to still go and even have a date, even if it's not you.
nismo-4
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You've been asked on a date! You don't know how good you got it right now.
Stop that insecure sentimental journey sh*t and go with her. If everyone else is staring at you, just put yourself in the mindset that says that everyone else in there hasn't seen a more gorgeous couple.
Remember that people are gonna talk about you until the day you die and there ain't sh*t you can do about it. Live your life how you so desire. F**k what a hater has to say about you. I had some witty comebacks for the occasion, you should too. Be courageous.
Case closed.
Stop that insecure sentimental journey sh*t and go with her. If everyone else is staring at you, just put yourself in the mindset that says that everyone else in there hasn't seen a more gorgeous couple.
Remember that people are gonna talk about you until the day you die and there ain't sh*t you can do about it. Live your life how you so desire. F**k what a hater has to say about you. I had some witty comebacks for the occasion, you should too. Be courageous.
Case closed.
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I just went to my own prom and one of my 18 year old friends brought her 22 year old boyfriend. Was a complete non-issue and we all had a great time. So really, just go and have fun. Plus she'd feel really left out without someone to bang afterward.
Sir Psycho Sexy
Senior Don Juan
I was in your position this year and decided to not go.
She ended up going with a friend, had a great time.
The high schoolers will talk sh1t behind your back but that shouldnt matter.
All that matters is if YOU want to go or not.
She ended up going with a friend, had a great time.
The high schoolers will talk sh1t behind your back but that shouldnt matter.
All that matters is if YOU want to go or not.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
War Against Betaism
Master Don Juan
Why does it matter how many times one should go to a prom? My friend went to 4 different proms, in the same year, and he enjoyed them all.