Why do you live there…
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Going to meet that cute 49 yr old teacher tonight. How to keep frame?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Parents moved there and didnt want to stay in st. Louis. So you didnt see young people crawling around everywhere when you visited? The median age for my county is 56 . Is that bad?
Dallas County average median is 33.5. Native born is 29, foreigners are older and drive the average up.
Black Widow Void
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Nobody scores 100% with each female encounter.
If you had a good time tonight and didn't leave feeling depleted, then you're still on the winning side of things.
If you had a good time tonight and didn't leave feeling depleted, then you're still on the winning side of things.
Wow. Over 20 years younger than my region. Wow. I must be missing out
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
It is a large difference yes…
Well, since you’re still living with your parents and they decided to move there, then you are also living with their decision. That area of Florida was obviously what they decided was best for them, but you may need to decide what’s best for you personally at some point, or continue to live with their decision and accept the female population demographics…
Dad passed away in march so I cant leave my mom alone. It seems most of the women move here from up north for medical or teaching type jobs and already married. Few decent looking locals marry people in their circle from high school. So then you have the select few women left who have uber high standards and are gold diggers, post wall or want a hyper chad. Lots of young women dig for gold around here with older guys.
You know it seems fat ugly people have it the easiest because they marry fellow fat ugly slobs so it's easy for them to find a fellow hb1. While a normal man does not go for a fat girl. So that leaves a select few women to compete for. Which I mean majority of men.
This chick and her teacher friend do a lot of day trips to the Tampa area to do stuff cause they said its boring around here. They go to shows, museums, bush gardens, etc. Especially in the summer and winter break. The last two weekends that's what they did. They invited me to Tampa with them 3 weeks ago but I have my business I couldn't leave. This chick was actually born here.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I have my mother there who works with me and when we are both gone a few times I've hired a vendor to work for me but they don't sell much casue they don't know much about the product.
Also, this time of year I NEED both people there because it's busy and even with two of us it can get overwhelming. Certainly or an OLD date which typically don't go anywhere it's not worth losing a couple hundred in sales over.
MrWood
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they actually said this to you? (ouch)
cuz dudes in the 50/60 dont want kids and are.. umm... mature.
I know this chick is pushing 50 but I would NEVER imagine myself with a 60 to 70 year old no matter how rich they're I cant do it.
That also shows the difference between man and woman. Women will go out with a way older guy but a normal guy would NOT even want to touch a 60 year old. Gross.
Then again women dont operate solely on looks like men generally do. Why you see hot women with fat slobs or old dudes if they have money but not the other way around.
If a 65 year old woman was a multi millionaire you couldn't pay me to be with her. Even if she had a billion. Yuk.
She goes to church a lot and has a 19 and 21 year old and thinks I should have kids so I need to be with someone who wants to have children. Hence a woman in her late 20s or 30s she said.
I've seen you mention older women telling you stuff like this before, so let me explain something to you. When older women try to match you with someone or suggest you find someone younger, it's just a defense mechanism, they're scared. They know you can get someone younger, so they're trying to back out early so they wont get hurt. They're not rejecting you, they're pushing you away out of reasonable fear. If there was no kind of physical attraction at all, she wouldn't have even agreed to meet up.
In these moments, you don't confirm their fears by agreeing with them, you instead put their mind at ease by doubling down. No I want to talk to you, that's why I came here, idc how old you are, I know what I want, I prefer older women, idc about having kids, ect. That's how you bypass that stuff and have sex with them
taiyuu_otoko
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If you're going to meet her at her schedule in a way that is convenient for her, and ZERO risk for her (she's bringing her friend) you've already lost the frame.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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You actually have standards then. That's good.
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My thoughts exactly (and apparently corrector 's too) However ... the difference here is that he and I read the OP's posting request. The OP wasn't asking for an opinion, he was asking for tips.
The next time a member is seeking advice, will your posting motive be filled with righteousness or with assisting them (no matter if we agree or disagree with their choice) in achieving their best favorable outcome?
taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
Righteousness?
Perhaps indicating a poster's situation is worse off than they think is the best advice.
Perhaps doing so presupposes the posters ability to respond to a more accurate assessment of their position.
Would you say a coach, yelling at his athletes that they'll never win if they continue to play poorly, is filled with righteousness?
Or maybe I'm imagining all this because my biases are keeping me from seeing my own righteousness.
If somebody came to you and asked you how to best turn $100 into $1,000,000 within a month, would you actually give him advice, or tell him he's an idiot?
Why the **** did you go on a date with a girl and her friend? Also you let two grandmas ****ing BETA you. I'm not even sure who to be mad at AT this point. Not trying to knock you but COME ON BRO. You should have put GRANNY IN HER PLACE.
I didnt pay a penny for it. No bets buxxing. What you mean put her in her place? By asking for an actual date just her and i?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.