Going to ask her out! LTR

[ColonyConfused]

So our classes start in 2 days, and we would be in the same class, its a language institute, we're attending Italian. i haven't done much DJ actions on her, only successful eye contacts, no kino yet, but if we sit next to each other at the class, i'm going to kino her. i haven't done anything crazy yet, so she has no idea what i feel about her, at least i left her at that state that we're only friends. since i like her for a LTR.
ok, so i was thinking when the classes start, after a few classes, i'm going to ask her for a date at my favorite Coffee shop, (yeah i know), but she loves coffee shops so do i. i have already told her about that coffee shop, she seemed interested, but i didn't say "we should go there sometime".. i'm planning to do so.
i'm kind of in a state of relationship with 3 other girls, they're very interested, but i feel very attracted to this one.

So.. any advices?.. or tips?

 

[LearningSlowly]

So our classes start in 2 days, and we would be in the same class, its a language institute, we're attending Italian. i haven't done much DJ actions on her, only successful eye contacts, no kino yet, but if we sit next to each other at the class, i'm going to kino her. i haven't done anything crazy yet, so she has no idea what i feel about her, at least i left her at that state that we're only friends. since i like her for a LTR.
ok, so i was thinking when the classes start, after a few classes, i'm going to ask her for a date at my favorite Coffee shop, (yeah i know), but she loves coffee shops so do i. i have already told her about that coffee shop, she seemed interested, but i didn't say "we should go there sometime".. i'm planning to do so.
i'm kind of in a state of relationship with 3 other girls, they're very interested, but i feel very attracted to this one.

So.. any advices?.. or tips?

You titled the post including LTR, but you definitely are not in an LTR yet. As I see it, that's your problem. You have unreasonable expectations for this girl.

Maybe you think that since she's in your class and you'll see her a lot, it'll work out perfectly, and it might, but why not wait and see?

I will say that if you're going to see her a lot, this has the potential to go very well. Just get to know her before you're pushing for a LTR. Getting to know her definitely includes sex, which is the fun part after all.

 

[ColonyConfused]

You titled the post including LTR, but you definitely are not in an LTR yet. As I see it, that's your problem. You have unreasonable expectations for this girl.

you're right, i've always been a dreamer, but my dreams are not on false hope, i might win it.

Maybe you think that since she's in your class and you'll see her a lot, it'll work out perfectly, and it might, but why not wait and see?

Yes thats why i'm going to wait another week, see her actions, and after all see if she's interested too.

I will say that if you're going to see her a lot, this has the potential to go very well. Just get to know her before you're pushing for a LTR. Getting to know her definitely includes sex, which is the fun part after all.

oh yeah i'm looking forward for the fun part, she's absolutely an HB, and she's very into Arts and Movies, and there's a good movie on screen now, she hasn't seen it yet, thats another opportunity to start the kissing part with. what do you think?..

p.s, its all going to happen in (at least) next week, so i'll figure her out in this week.

 

[Cashew]

You are definitely in fantasyland about the whole Long Term Relationship idea. My advice would be to not even think of the two of you in terms of any sort of relationship or potential relationship. Don't bring it up in conversation. Don't mention it to her or anyone else. Scour that concept from your mind. Completely. Just go out to have some fun, just be two people having a good time together.

It might lead somewhere, it might not. Those pieces will fall into place on their own without you ever even needing to think or say the word "relationship." Because in the grand scheme of things, it doesn't really matter what it is or becomes.

 

[ColonyConfused]

Thanks Cashew, will definitely use your advice, it will work with her without a doubt, she's that kind of person.

 

[ColonyConfused]

ok i fuc*ed up the first meet, we had nothing good to talk about, only talked about class and teacher, and i gave her what she had asked me for, a few weeks ago. when we were saying goodbye, i had the chance to take her to her home, but i didn't, i fuc*ed it up.
she's very shy, and the thing is that i get shy too when i'm near her, i'm not even close to being a shy person, but today i was acting like a 40 year old virgin... ahh. i'm perfect with other girls, its just her that i feel shy with. and dam* i feel addicted to thinking about her.. :/.... Help me!!! i dont want to be an AFC anymore!!