Just the post I needed to read. Having finally gotten into my first LTR (not technically, but the first girl I've actually cared about, something I actually suspected I might be incapable of), I've been searching sosuave again to see how I should handle it. I've got the ONS thing down pat, but was unsure how it would translate with a girl I cared about.
This post reassured me a lot, and came just in the knick of time. Almost everything you had listed in your post has been occuring more or less naturally. Spending more time on sosuave recently has kind of brainwashed me into thinking I need to play more games, when in fact I know I do not need to and suspect it could actually be somewhat harmful. It's good to know that the girl I invested in actually fits your criteria quite well... if for nothing else than to reaffirm my own assessment.
Pretty much the only "red-flag" you indicated is that she mentioned she cheated on one of her boyfriends long ago. Of course, the situation is a bit strange since she was good friends with one of my ex-gf's (whom I cheated on numerous times), and all of which she knows about (someone blabbed after I broke up with my ex-gf thinking it wouldn't matter anymore if people found out).
Thanks for a great post.
