"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Going Steady
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
afrojiggles
Don Juan
This post reassured me a lot, and came just in the knick of time. Almost everything you had listed in your post has been occuring more or less naturally. Spending more time on sosuave recently has kind of brainwashed me into thinking I need to play more games, when in fact I know I do not need to and suspect it could actually be somewhat harmful. It's good to know that the girl I invested in actually fits your criteria quite well... if for nothing else than to reaffirm my own assessment.
Pretty much the only "red-flag" you indicated is that she mentioned she cheated on one of her boyfriends long ago. Of course, the situation is a bit strange since she was good friends with one of my ex-gf's (whom I cheated on numerous times), and all of which she knows about (someone blabbed after I broke up with my ex-gf thinking it wouldn't matter anymore if people found out).
Thanks for a great post.
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Master Don Juan
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.