Attract the Right Energy
If you practice seduction techniques designed to get fast lays, then it should come as no surprise that you will attract a certain type of woman who responds to that. In my experience, game that is loaded with neg hits, excessive C&F and mind games will pull chicks with self-esteem issues who are not worth much more than a quick romp in the sack.
If you are looking for something deeper, then you will have to learn to project authenticity and make real connections. Relax with the mind-fukking and just be genuine and engaging. You will see a drastic difference in the quality of women you attract.
The key is not to give women special treatment whatsoever, because supplication puts out the wrong signals. It's all a balance of values. At one extreme guys put the hotties on pedestals and worship them blindly, at the other extreme they try to put themselves above women with a myriad of techniques which "raise their value". Both approaches are rooted in one's insecurity and are just different side of the same supplication coin.
In the game of love, there are no pedestals. A woman's energy and values have to MATCH your own for real chemistry to happen. Love is not a constant struggle for power, like let's see who calls who first, or I'm gonna take her down a few notches.. this is childish. Call her if you want to and if she needs to be taken off her high horse, then there's a good chance she is not for you!
If you want a good, feminine gal who understands her role as a woman, then you have to be a dominant gentleman and leave these DJ tricks behind. When it comes to a quality lady, nothing seduces more effectively than sincerity, confidence and charm. Looking and feeling your best certainly helps too!
The Infamous Ex
Beware the lingering ex-boyfriend. It's one thing if they just had a quick fling, but if they were a serious item, then "We are still good friends" should set off a Code Blue!
I don't care how open-minded you are, this is just bad news. I know because I have tried being friends with my ex GF's and it never pans out.
This is not to say that you can't be civil or see this person in public, but to hang out on a regular basis with your ex is like playing with matches at a gas station. Not a good idea!
Her Dad
A woman's relationship with her father is often very telling. He is her first Man and represents more than she is consciously aware of. I am not educated on psychology, but I can tell you that my best relationships have been with chicks who admired and got along with their fathers.
An absentee or worse yet, abusive dad is a red flag in my book. Not that I would never date a girl with these issues, but in my experience it has been more trouble than it was worth. In most cases, these girls tend to have the worst insecurities and often deal with them by being slvts, attentionwh0res, strippers, drug addicts, and overall waste of time. Great for quickies but horrible for LTRs.
Her Friends
Never trust a girl who does not have girlfriends. A chick who never grows out of her tomboy phase is just not ready for love. She needs to mature and embrace her femininity before that can really happen.
With that out of the way, watch how she handles her friendships, because its a good indication of what's in store for you. You will quickly see if she is a giver or a taker, loyal or conniving. You cant tell a lot about a person not only from the company they keep, but how they keep it.
This is one of the things that really swept me away about my wife. She has that genuine mom instinct and takes care of all her friends. She always goes out on a limb for her own, even if it's inconvenient for her. I actually had to teach her to be more selfish because some friends took advantage of her kindness.
Compare that to my ex, who was constantly asking for favors and rarely returning them. She was always manipulating her friends to get what she wanted and generally being shady. She would talk sh!t and complain behind people's backs over the silliest BS. I should not have been surprised when she treated me the same way.
One last word on her friends. You must win their approval if you want anything serious. A girl takes her friends opinions very seriously so make sure they get a taste of your charm. The ideal scenario is to have them constantly telling her what a catch you are.
Stop Dating Yourself
You may think it's a dream come true to find someone who enjoys all the same activities and has the same temperament as you, but in my experience, this relationship will go nowhere fast. You are essentially dating a female YOU and this will not work out in the long haul.
A relationship works very much like magnetism.. the bond is at its strongest when polar opposites join and you achieve a natural duality.. man/woman, yin/yang, fire/water, etc.. In contrast, magnetic charges of the same polarity will always repel each other.
While compatibility and shared interests are essential, it is healthy to be with someone who is very energetically distinct from yourself, so don't let the differences discourage you. Great relationships are characterized by people whose quirks compliment each other.
Two people of the same mold will never balance each other out. If you are very laid-back like me, then that means you need some fire under your ass and a woman with a lot of spirit and energy. You will calm her down and she will stir you to activity. In turn you will both learn a lot from each other and evolve in ways you had not imagined.
LJBF is a blessing in disguise.
Too many of you guys take this sh!t too personal. A girl wants to get to know you first and instantly you think your chances are shot. "Let's Just Be Friends"...it's like a death sentence being read out to most budding DJs and this is just not the case.
Making friends with hot chicks is a win-win situation. First of all, hotties always roll with other hotties and you get instant proof just by association. Second of all, chicks make better wingmen than dudes because they ignite the competitive spark that all women have. A guy who walks in the room with two gorgeous ladies on his arm (who may even just be his friends) will turn more heads than a dude trying to impress his lame guy friends with his l33t DJ skills.
The first time I hit on my wife, she LJBF'ed me and let it be known that she was spoken for. If I was a typical PUA I woulda nexted her, but honestly I thought she was a class act for being faithful, we got along great, and she had hot friends, so I kept her as a pal with no expectations. I had plenty of action at the time, which would eventually make her jealous once she dumped that loser boyfriend and found herself single...hehe.
Being friends with a girl before you seduce her adds an extra spice to your relationship. When romance is built on a foundation of friendship, the connection is far more powerful and lasting because you really trust and respect each other.
I posted on this topic ages ago and still stand by my advice:
Escaping the Friend Zone
Of course this is not always the case and sometimes you will just end up jumping each other right away. That's fine too, just keep in mind..
Take your Time, Do it Right
Don't be in such a rush to find your better half. If you two are hitting it off and things are great, there is no need to go from zero to 60. Ease up a bit and really get to know her. It's like Chris Rock said, when you first hook up with a girl you are not actually dating her, you're dating her representative.
We always put our best foot forward at the start of a relationship, so it's often wise to wait until the other shoe drops. In other words, at some point she will start to slip up and annoy you..it's inevitable. Find out if it's something you can deal with or if you guys are ultimately not that compatible.
By the same token, you cannot be a selfish bastard. If you have a good woman on your hands, then at some point you will have to relinquish certain things and give of yourself. While it's wise to pace yourself, recognize that a good woman is worth compromising with.
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