"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Going speed dating tomorrow

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So my university is holding a speed dating event tomorrow. I'm not really expecting anything other than to have a bit of fun. I doubt that that any of the girls there will be attractive but I could be surprised.

Even though I'm not expecting anything to happen, I don't want to blow any possibilities.

What are some fun questions I can ask to break up the monotony?

What can I do right when I meet a girl to make a good impression?

BTW the event is free and there is going to be free food :)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Just don't ask the standard questions. Have a fun conversation, be a little daring.
You won't be pulling anybody at the event, but rather at the party/cometogether afterwards ;)

P.S.: there WILL be attractive girls who are just curious.
 

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Heh, I know to avoid the standard questions. Like, where are you from, what do you do, what kind of music do you like, and all that yawn inducing conversation topics.

What can I say to have a fun daring conversation?

Some questions I'm thinking of are; what is your favorite thing about men, why are you single or why did your last relationship end, what do you do for fun, what do you want to do when you graduate, do you kiss on first dates?

I tried to get questions that are out of the ordinary but I know they aren't the best.
 

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The orgainizers want us to show up at a set time so we can check in. But I'll try to mingle if we can. The question that you posted sounds pretty good. I'll add it to my list.
 

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Since it's at school what sort of potential for sexual harassment is there? Would you be liable at all if you asked some upfront but honest questions?

Do you do anal?

Can you suck a golf ball through a garden hose? Can you suck the chrome off a trailer hitch?

Do you like threesomes?

Do you know how to cook?

Do you know how to clean?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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"If you ever had to seduce a gay guy, do you think you could handle it.. how would try doing it?"

"If you were locked in a room with at least 20 other clones or twin sisters around you, what would you do specifically to stand out?"

"If we were a couple, and I wanted to hang out with my friends till 2AM in the morning, how would that make you feel?"

"Do you want to kiss me? HER: i don't know. YOU: lets find out." HAHA jus kidding on this one.
 

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Any other responses? I've got less than 24 hours to prepare and I'm going to be at school the whole day tomorrow.

Edit

Since I've used up my daily allotment, yay post limit :down: I'm going to respond here.

I'm afraid of having periods of awkward silence. Guess I might be trying too hard to be prepared.
 
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I went to a speed date thing through school once. It was basically just free wine and girls. And me and my friend just spewed out complete bull**** the whole night.
 

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Maxtro said:
Any other responses? I've got less than 24 hours to prepare and I'm going to be at school the whole day tomorrow.
How many more do you need bro.. its called speed dating for a reason :rolleyes:
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Well, it was an interesting event.

There were about 40 guys and girls each. Every 3 minutes the guys would move on to the next girl. It was no where near enough time to make a connection. Right when the conversation started going it was time to move on. Also the organizers did not provide name tags. That was a huge mistake as you had to re-ask the person's name at the end. Light snacks were provided but they might as well not be because the guys could only sit down for 3 minutes and there was no time to eat.

Overall the quality of women was average to low, going strictly by looks. This did not surprise me. There were two to thee girls that were 7's. It's without a doubt that the vast majority of guys put yes on their card for them. I think I put yes for 5 or 6 girls.

One annoyance was that some of the girls tried to take the lead in the conversation. And they'd always ask the same questions, "what's your major, what year are you." I quickly learned to combine answers and the those questions out of the way and get to more interesting stuff. A surprising number of girls said they were there to give moral support for their friends. I wonder how true that answer really is.

I do not expect anybody that I put yes for to put yes for me. If that does happen I will be pleasantly surprised. Overall it was something to get my out of my shell. It was fun talking to so many girls at once.

If anybody is considering doing speed dating, go in with the thought that it's just about having fun and ilt's good practice for sociallizing.
 

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Get The Speed Dating Guide

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My friend wants to do this, but everywhere around here they only seem to do it for people aged 25+
 

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I attended one a few years ago when I had recently moved to a new city. It was interesting. Same results, one attractive girl, several 5's and many chubbies. I got matched with the hottie, I'm sure everyone did. lol
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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