"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Going out with her just to go out?

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Long story short,

Met a girl online, we meet for first date. goes great. meet for 2nd date (next day) goes great as well.

Before this girl, I really havent been out much with that many girls, so I thought id try it out. (she came on to me). I am pretty picky with who i go out with, but I thought since it had been such a long time since i went out, id give it a try.

I do not feel that attracted to her and also i sense she is perhaps even playing mind games.

Fast forward a week, and we have scheduled to go out tonight (friday) on our 3rd date.

At this point im not sure if i should flake or go out with her just to go out?

HELP?
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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peteywintz

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You seem like you aren't approaching women enough. If you're picky with who you go out with, you have to approach that much more to be able to find the same amount of dates for a less picky DJ. Her coming on to you is also a pretty big indicator that you need to get out there and meet more women.

W.r.t. this girl, don't go out for the sake of going out; go out and escalate. Unless she's an obese 2, what is the worst that can happen?
 

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my brother told me to always go sexually on first date, grab her hands, escalate. I believe he is very correct. is she fuarkable? if so, insert.
 

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peteywintz said:
You seem like you aren't approaching women enough. If you're picky with who you go out with, you have to approach that much more to be able to find the same amount of dates for a less picky DJ. Her coming on to you is also a pretty big indicator that you need to get out there and meet more women.

W.r.t. this girl, don't go out for the sake of going out; go out and escalate. Unless she's an obese 2, what is the worst that can happen?
You are spot on!

Good catching all that.

Yes, I do need to approach and meet more women, Honestly I am always either busy or don't have the skill set in public.

And honestly I don't know what is the worst that could happen, Hence Why i am posting here and asking for advice.

I dont know if i should put in the effort to make something happen out of this, or just to move on.

Thanks!
 

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moneyisking said:
my brother told me to always go sexually on first date, grab her hands, escalate. I believe he is very correct. is she fuarkable? if so, insert.
I assume I need to move quicker then! haha

She is very classy and conservative, so I am a little weary about making moves.

Although Im sure tonight i will atleast try.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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As long as you're not paying for everything, just keep her around for practice.
Just for $hits and giggles, do the whole seduction thing on her and then don't make a move on her. See what kind of reaction you get.

It's like job interviews, the more you do the better you get at them.
 

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Cremasta said:
As long as you're not paying for everything, just keep her around for practice.
Just for $hits and giggles, do the whole seduction thing on her and then don't make a move on her. See what kind of reaction you get.

It's like job interviews, the more you do the better you get at them.
Unfortunately, I will most likely be paying.

Also, is there a specific thread where i can find this seduction method?

Lets see!
 

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nickmb said:
Also, is there a specific thread where i can find this seduction method?
Here's one for you...

Nickmb: So where are you taking me this Friday?
Girl: I don't know, why?
Nickmb: It's your turn to pay.
 

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@nick

I'm in the same boat as u. I'm going out with a girl that came onto me. I'm not attracted enough. I do cold approach but not as often as I should and therefore don't have enough dates with girls I like. I get pressure sometimes by friends to date around and then I ask out girls who are clearly into but not the other way around.

I'm thinking about just canceling tonight. Ever since she got my number she's been blowing me up with texts. Other guys r saying just use her as practice but I can't even get into if I'm not attracted. Only time I bang chicks I'm not into is when I'm drunk and I drunk texted this girl.
 

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i think you need to give time to yourself to think and till then let be friends.when you are fully out of confusion to own the relationship you will enjoy more.if you need any help related to the romentic dinning, places,parks and beeches which suit your pocket or a car to take your girl for a drive then feel free to contact SFO LIMO SERVICE.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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AAAgent said:
@nick

I'm in the same boat as u. I'm going out with a girl that came onto me. I'm not attracted enough. I do cold approach but not as often as I should and therefore don't have enough dates with girls I like. I get pressure sometimes by friends to date around and then I ask out girls who are clearly into but not the other way around.

I'm thinking about just canceling tonight. Ever since she got my number she's been blowing me up with texts. Other guys r saying just use her as practice but I can't even get into if I'm not attracted. Only time I bang chicks I'm not into is when I'm drunk and I drunk texted this girl.
Yes,

Exactly, I need to do more cold approaches I assume!

And ignoring this girl makes it worse, Its like shes stalking me.
 
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