"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Going out with chicks that work in stores.

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I think this would be cold approaching, but slightly warmer especially if you see her there a lot. I'm in that situation now. I've made good rapport with a girl and I think if I number closed, I will be successful.

Just wondering if anyone here dated a chick that worked at a store, restaurant or some other establishment? How did it turn out? Did she know a lot about you before the first date?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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nonameok said:
I think this would be cold approaching, but slightly warmer especially if you see her there a lot. I'm in that situation now. I've made good rapport with a girl and I think if I number closed, I will be successful.

Just wondering if anyone here dated a chick that worked at a store, restaurant or some other establishment? How did it turn out? Did she know a lot about you before the first date?
I've dated women who've worked in stores before. One worked at a Wal-Mart,and another worked at a fast food place. In this type of environment,you basically can bypass a so-called "opener". You don't need one,especially if she works at a register.
It went well overall,one girl I dated for like 7 months,and another I dated for a little over a year. But why are you asking this question? I thought you decided that asexuality was for you. You are the one who started that thread,right?
 

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Haha, I number closed a girl at Guess Clothing two weeks ago, we got together and you probably know the rest.

I'm not sure that situation would change things much, just game on. If anything, it's easier. Chances are if business is slow she'll be bored, so it's a golden opportunity to speak to her.

Use things around the store to flirt with her, IE a piece of clothing; if she tells you one thing will look good on you, take something about that clothing and make fun of the girl (For example: Why would you pick that! It's so ugly! Do you want me to be a geek?) Something light and funny.
 
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