I'm going out in a bit...I tend to drink heavily before I go out. I say I do it to save money, as it's quite expensive to drink at bars in NYC on a Sat. night. But tonight as I sit here drinking alone, I feel a bit guilty. Like I'm starting to use alcohol as to much of a crutch. I can talk to girls in public while sober, but I am more brave while drunk. Just thought I'd throw this topic out there for discussion.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Going out - Drinking Beforehand
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
It's true that alcohol gives you more courage but sometimes it gives you the courage to do stupid things like picking fights with bouncers twice your size.
Alcohol can be good if you can keep it to a pleasant buzz. You feel good and your inhibitions are slightly reduced but you're still thinking straight and you don't do stupid things.
I've seen some dudes totally screw things up with girls because they drank too much and became jack asses.
Alcohol can be good if you can keep it to a pleasant buzz. You feel good and your inhibitions are slightly reduced but you're still thinking straight and you don't do stupid things.
I've seen some dudes totally screw things up with girls because they drank too much and became jack asses.
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Honestly, it's okay to have a drink or two when you're at the club. It's normal social behavior.
Haha, I know exactly what you mean, being a recent college grad in this wonderfully terrible economy. I usually do have a drink or two before I head out. It's ridiculously expensive out here.
I mean, the most important thing is making sure you can "replicate" your personality on the day 2. There have been plenty of times where I get pretty drunk and it helps me pump up girls' buying temperature and on the next date they wonder where that guy went.
In the end, just make sure you're not getting drunk. Matador always tells me "From a scale of 1 to 10, 1 being sober, and 10 being totally drunk, I like to game at a 4", on the same token too, he does focus more heavily on same night lays and doesn't worry so much about the day 2.
If you're just starting out, I would recommend that you go out sober, it's tougher, but you'll be glad you did.
Haha, I know exactly what you mean, being a recent college grad in this wonderfully terrible economy. I usually do have a drink or two before I head out. It's ridiculously expensive out here.
I mean, the most important thing is making sure you can "replicate" your personality on the day 2. There have been plenty of times where I get pretty drunk and it helps me pump up girls' buying temperature and on the next date they wonder where that guy went.
In the end, just make sure you're not getting drunk. Matador always tells me "From a scale of 1 to 10, 1 being sober, and 10 being totally drunk, I like to game at a 4", on the same token too, he does focus more heavily on same night lays and doesn't worry so much about the day 2.
If you're just starting out, I would recommend that you go out sober, it's tougher, but you'll be glad you did.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
The more you go out sober, the more you'll improve.Kevin Feng said:I would recommend that you go out sober, it's tougher, but you'll be glad you did.
This is some advice im thinking of taking simply because i need to get comfortable being sober in a bar environment. I.E. Two weekends ago me and 2 friends went to a bar that was completely packed and i felt overwhelmed as soon as we entered even tho i knew like 15-20 of the ppl there. It took about 4 crown and cokes to get that "liquid" confidence/relaxation.Captain said:The more you go out sober, the more you'll improve.
Getting into that vibe that i get into after a few drinks, without actually drinking would be beneficial.