Is it better when looking for women, is it better to walk around the mall all by yourself (loner) or have like a wingman or a group of friends? I mean I been thinking that if you go places all by yourself wouldn't the woman think like "wow he's such a ****in loner dont he got friends?" and blah blah... what do you think? I have a thing with being alone.. Like I want to go to Fun Factory but I'd feel weird going all by myself lol...
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Going out by yourself or with somebody/group?
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Just like fighter pilots having a good wingman can save your life. For DJs having a good wingman or wingmen can save your night. Having a wingman or wingmen can make certain situations a lot easier on you and cut down some obstacles.
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RiceHapa888
Don Juan
I second that...Wingmen can be crucial in many settings... you go to clubs and you see sets of 2,3 and even 4...a wingman can increase the odds you can isolate and dj one of the targets...of course at a bookstore or store being by yourself is fine....
Anaxibios
Don Juan
I also agree, a GOOD wingman can be a blessing (though make sure he knows what a wingman is, i could tell some stories)...
but don't worry if you are alone, it shows real courage to go up to someone when you're alone (no moral support), and most women won't immediately think you're a loser, especially if you have the guts to go up to her. Guys w guts have friends.
but don't worry if you are alone, it shows real courage to go up to someone when you're alone (no moral support), and most women won't immediately think you're a loser, especially if you have the guts to go up to her. Guys w guts have friends.
AlwaysExcel
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Yeah, worrying about whether approaching alone will be perceived as creepy, is the wrong thing to do. Think about what helps your game. Does a buddy give you an extra little push of motivation? Personally, I have the most approach confidence when I'm with AFC friends. It's like I'm performing for them and impressing them with my balls. Kinda lame, I know but effective enough to help me get into the practice of cold approaching and giving me experience with using canned material and making shyt up on the fly.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Totally agree with dementia on this one! **** man, you're not a chick, you don't need to ring up 5 buddies to come shopping with you, WTF that's what chicks do when they shop for shoes. I usually go shopping alone, I don't waste my time with shops, I get what I need and I'm out. I don't think anything of going out to the mall alone coz there is nothing TO THINK about, nobody thinks nothing about you when you go out shopping alone, when you see people out in the mall alone do you think "Wow, what a loner he must have no friends..." If you think that you got some issues.
With parties/clubs I think it's different, most people go out with friends to those, going out alone to those are boring! My best nights of going to clubs with mates is when I wasn't trying to pick up!
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You're worrying about what other people think of you. That's insecurity. When you go out and do what you want to do, not worrying about the people around you, that's confidence.
What the hell does it matter what a complete stranger thinks about you? Chances are you'll never see them again in your life. When was the last time you heard a woman talk about one insignificant guy in a mall who was walking around by himself. Have you ever heard a woman say, "Man, this one guy at the mall was walking around by himself. He was such a loser!" Hell no. Women go to malls to spend money, not talk about people they don't know or have never met.
What the hell does it matter what a complete stranger thinks about you? Chances are you'll never see them again in your life. When was the last time you heard a woman talk about one insignificant guy in a mall who was walking around by himself. Have you ever heard a woman say, "Man, this one guy at the mall was walking around by himself. He was such a loser!" Hell no. Women go to malls to spend money, not talk about people they don't know or have never met.