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I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

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What are your experiences going out to bars alone?

Im in another state travelling and meeting another place and I just went out alone.

Do you guys had good experiences with that?
 
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Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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It's my standard MO. No need to worry about other guys/rides/logistics, etc. Just do your thing...

Doesn't hurt to get to know the folks next to you at the bar. Warms you up for when the real talent shows up. I don't go out in a new town with any agenda or expectations. I treat most of my approaches as "gathering intell" on new places to check out. I will have a solo room so I know I have Logistics locked down. Then just see where it goes.
 

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I came to that bar on saturday, its a nice place and near my hotel. Also nice chicks.

But Im not use to go out alone. But anyways, just enjoyinh a gin with a lemon and observing, lets see what happens. Last night I was at another bar and a woman hit on me there and went to my place... So we had sex. But I was with my friend on that bar.

Lets see for tonight.
 

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One of my best out of town experiences I spent 2 nights in her hotel room and NEVER even slept in my own bed... When I left the third day she asked me to spend the night again, but I had a 4 hour drive home and work in the morning.
 

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One of my best out of town experiences I spent 2 nights in her hotel room and NEVER even slept in my own bed... When I left the third day she asked me to spend the night again, but I had a 4 hour drive home and work in the morning.
Hahaha thats Nice!!!

The good thing of going out alone it seems youre the different guy.

Like not all guys are courage enough to go out alone.
 

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She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What are your experiences going out to bars alone?

Im in another state travelling and meeting another place and I just went out alone.

Do you guys had good experiences with that?
Never have any expectations when you go out alone - otherwise you will feel that pressure that if you do not meet any women tonight than you are a loser. Last weekend I went to the club alone and had a decent time without even speaking with any chick.
 

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I do it all the time. It's a good relaxation and reward for a great week of working and weightlifting. I'm usually one of the tallest in the place, so I get attention with ease. I tend to also get all the girls standing around me at the bar.
 

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Make friends with bartenders. Go to the same places multiple times, even twice in a day so they get to know you. Make sure you remember their names. Tip well. Also ask them what other places are good. Talk to literally every person you can young or old. If you have multiple days then you can actually build up a little bit of “status” by being known by the staff and seen being social.

I spent 4 days in a fairly small town (pop 3K) and by the 2nd day I knew every bartender in town along with some other random folks. By the last day people were waving at me walking down the street or offering to give me a ride to wherever I was walking.

This is a lot like what Robert Glover says, talk to everyone and be social without expectations.

Unfortunately for me this little town had practically zero females between 25 and 35. I did finally find one who also showed some interest at like 10PM the last night but she was working, I was buzzed and had to drive 4 hours home early in the morning ‍so it is what it is. I still had a blast though.
 

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Never have any expectations when you go out alone - otherwise you will feel that pressure that if you do not meet any women tonight than you are a loser. Last weekend I went to the club alone and had a decent time without even speaking with any chick.
True man!

Thanks for the tips.
 

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I do it all the time. It's a good relaxation and reward for a great week of working and weightlifting. I'm usually one of the tallest in the place, so I get attention with ease. I tend to also get all the girls standing around me at the bar.
I just sent some drinks to some girls, they enjoyed it I sent my number and I think I will sit there with them.
 

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What are your experiences going out to bars alone?

Im in another state travelling and meeting another place and I just went out alone.

Do you guys had good experiences with that?
Not a big deal at all. I did it many times pre-pandemic, got some approaches in, got laid from it, etc.
 

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Make friends with bartenders. Go to the same places multiple times, even twice in a day so they get to know you. Make sure you remember their names. Tip well. Also ask them what other places are good. Talk to literally every person you can young or old. If you have multiple days then you can actually build up a little bit of “status” by being known by the staff and seen being social.

I spent 4 days in a fairly small town (pop 3K) and by the 2nd day I knew every bartender in town along with some other random folks. By the last day people were waving at me walking down the street or offering to give me a ride to wherever I was walking.

This is a lot like what Robert Glover says, talk to everyone and be social without expectations.

Unfortunately for me this little town had practically zero females between 25 and 35. I did finally find one who also showed some interest at like 10PM the last night but she was working, I was buzzed and had to drive 4 hours home early in the morning ‍so it is what it is. I still had a blast though.
The problem here is that my friend came out and he is coughing all the time.

This is awkward and he is not covering his face. He is like that all the time, its not covid but its.very weird cause its a loud cough.

What should I do? It could fkc up with girls here.
 
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