Going on a bike ride (day date) with a chick

[f283000]

Maxtro you like if you say you have read the dj bible because you haven't! Not if you are asking those kinds of questions!

 

[corrector]

Ok then, how do you make certain that she knows it's a date?

I'm assuming that specifically saying it's a date is a bad thing.

You buy a bag of dates from the supermarket, have her try one with a blind-fold on and ask her what she thinks it is.

 

[Maxtro]

Rule of thumb is, if there's interest then it's a date.

Depends how you behaved around her so far. Is it friendly conversation? Or is there playful teasing, flirting, and even touch?

That's my thinking. When we talked there was teasing and very flirty conversation. So tomorrow should be a date. My biggest concern was that the last time I saw her was 20 days ago. So there is a huge chance all her interest has faded away.

Maxtro you like if you say you have read the dj bible because you haven't!

Can we get an English translation?

@ corrector, clever

 

[PokerStar]

. So there is a huge chance all her interest has faded away.

i find this an oppurtunity to rekindle the flame and perhaps make the fire burn even brighter.

my look on life is to take advantage of all opportunities that life hands you.

 

[amoka]

Can we get an English translation?

@ corrector, clever

He implies you should by now have read the DJ bible... and that questions to your answers could easily be found in the Man's Book of Life.

I also suggest you read the Bible, or re-read it, if you already have, before the date tomorrow. You'd be surprised by what you can really find in there.

 

[Forty0ztoFreedom]

Ok then, how do you make certain that she knows it's a date?

I'm assuming that specifically saying it's a date is a bad thing.

Well jeez, don't take anything I or anyone says as gospel so fast. I don't know you, this girl, or the situation, even if you wrote out a 100 page detailed description of all three.

I was just going by my gut, which says that a guy not sure if something is a 'date' is already-

A - in the friendzone or near it
B - missing the frame
C - insecure when it comes to this girl
etc,etc

You just KNOW when there's interest, and you KNOW when its gonna be a date. You'd laugh at the question.

That said you can go out and end up fvcking this girl all night. Who the hell knows. But from my own experience, this is not heading anywhere.

 

[f283000]

maxtro, replace "like" with "lie"

go read the dj bible!

 

[Maxtro]

double post

 

[Maxtro]

Never had a chance

And, of course I was friendzoned.

From the very beginning I never had a chance as I had to get her back home by 6 for a friends birthday dinner. I only found out about this after I had brought her to my place. I would have canceled if I knew that in advance.

We had fun but she just doesn't like me. Of course she doesn't

She knows I'm interested and doesn't want anything serious, when I asked for clarification she said date, and she just wants to be friends for now (and she'll probably never change her mind)

Oddly enough she talked about hanging out with me in the future. So this chick who knows I like her, doesn't like me, wants to see me again

Maybe I'll get drinks with her next week and try to get her to loosen up.

She's a very cool girl and is well connected with the campus social scene. I wonder if I can use that to my advantage.

I'm just bummed that it's yet another girl I couldn't get. At least she let me have a real date with her unlike the last girl who brought her fucking guy friend along.

 

[amoka]

What did you end up doing with her after taking her to your place?

 

[Maxtro]

We still did the bike ride then I took her to the jetty where we sat and talked for a while. Then we rode back to my place and talked a little more then I dropped her off.

She at least told me that she had fun and I did to, but of course I wanted more.

 

[ARrocket]

Did you try to make a move physically like you had planned?

Did the topic of you being interested in more than a platonic relationship come up?

Next time go out for drinks in the first place bro.

 

[Falcon25]

If you don't listen to me, this will happen for the rest of your life.

 

[Nygard]

After we all die, it's all over. All the times we managed to have sex with a hot chick or not will not matter. Let it go. Only after we lose it all, we're truly free. Life is too short to lose sleep over women, always attracted to people with the lowest morals.

 

[f283000]

Maxtro, I think you should allow Falcon25 to coach you. Next time you have a date set do whatever Falcon25 tells you to do on date night.

 

[DonJuan11]

- I was friendzoned.
- she just doesn't like me.
- she just wants to be friends for now
- she'll probably never change her mind
- she doesn't want anything serious
- Maybe I'll get drinks with her next week.

Good idea about the drinks, she will be silly putty in your hands.

 

[Maxtro]

Did you try to make a move physically like you had planned?

Did the topic of you being interested in more than a platonic relationship come up?

Next time go out for drinks in the first place bro.

I did lots of kino and I constantly teased her. When we were sitting on the rocks I brought up that I wanted to get to know her better and that's when she shot me down. If she responded differently, I would have kissed her then.

Frankly I haven't kissed a girl in 5 years, so I have zero confidence in trying to make a physical move.

When we got back to my place I made it very clear that I wanted more than a platonic relationship. She pretty much said that we are only going to be friends for now.

When I dropped her off she opened her arms wide, I jokingly said, "How about a kiss?" She said nope, we hugged then said bye.

I'm starting to get the idea that trying to date girls may be the wrong approach in college. The last girl said she didn't want to date anybody, and this girl said she doesn't want anything serious. I just want to have a fun time with a girl, then have sex with her. Is that too serious?

I'm annoyed that she didn't tell me before that she had to leave early. I was going to suggest that we get some pizza and watch a movie. Then I would have made some drinks. I've got plenty of alcohol at home. Perhaps if I had gotten her tipsy I would have had a better chance of hooking up with her.

I'll try going to a bar with her if she's not adverse to hanging out again. She also mentions that she goes to house parties so she could be a connection.

So next time I'm interested in a chick I'll try taking her to a bar. It doesn't seem as fun as a day date, but I probably have a better chance of getting some action from her.

After we all die, it's all over. All the times we managed to have sex with a hot chick or not will not matter. Let it go. Only after we lose it all, we're truly free. Life is too short to lose sleep over women, always attracted to people with the lowest morals.

Not very comforting since I'm probably not going to die until 60 years from now. Living alone from now until then is too painful. Heck, I'd at least want be happy with the fact that I got a chick before I died. 28 years old and I still haven't accomplished that.

 

[Falcon25]

Listen to me. You are not the only one who feels this way, there are many at your age in the same predicament. You have to change your approach. Just do what I say. You still have time. Many people your age can't even hold a girl or go on dates. Why? Cause they are being blown away in wars overseas. They are dead. They were much younger then you. You still have your health and all that. It will happen. It will just take time. It's gonna be okay man. Just stop the dating thing and starting having fun with girls. Just like I said.

Forget this girl. She's a stuck up *****. Next time, I want you to get a different girls number and then contact me. I'm gonna make sure you at least make out with a girl and get your finger wet by the end of 2010. I know it sucks. I have had all sorts of girls the last five years. Now, I am out of the dating scene. I will tell you this. The younger the girl, the flakier and more superficial she will be. PM me if you want to talk. I am gonna give it to you straight, I won't be nice to you. But you have to listen to me. I know how the game works. I know everything about these silly fuvking games. I will seriously make you confident enough about the situation that you will start attracting girls and they will start being physical with you, the type of girl is up to you.

Unless you have super good looks, and have lots of money, or cocaine, girls are a lot harder to get for us normal guys. But once you get in the groove, you will see that laying a girl is not even important. You will then write on here "Why can't I find the right girl?". You will start searching for a wife material. THEN IT GETS REALLY DIFFICULT.

 

[Maxtro]

My approach is changing or at least becoming more refined but it still hasn't gotten my any results so I wonder if I'm doing everything wrong.

What does having fun with girls mean? Today was fun for both of us but she might as well have been a dude.

Frankly I'm worried that I'm even getting the numbers in the wrong way and that I'm wasting my time meeting girls in class.

I'm starting to get very scared that I won't figure this out.

 

[Falcon25]

This is what I want you to do;

At 28 yrs of age, the college scene is not going to do it for you unless you meet some young sluvt at a bar or club. College girls are flaky, stupid, and wish washy. Try to find one over 27. But if not, then that's ok. Here's what I want you to do.

1) Ask a girl for her number after a solid conversation. ASK HER IF SHE'S SINGLE BEFORE ASKING FOR HER NUMBER. "Hey, so are you single or what? Oh cool, you seem like a cool chick, why don't you give me your number and maybe we can grab a drink sometime." This shows you are not a friend material. And saves you time and money. SHE WILL SAY SHE IS NOT SINGLE IF SHE IS NOT ATTRACTED. Then you move on to the next one.

2) Don't just go for all the hot girls, go for the cute skinny ones that you wouldn't look at all the time. You don't make 100K right away, you need an entry level position first.

3) Keep going gym, buy some nice going out shirts and jeans and shoes. Something you can wear at a lounge or club.

4) Once you get A SINGLE GIRL'S number, I want you to contact me. It is also important that you stop masturbating and watching porn close to the time you are about to meet up with a girl. Porn and masturbation are very bad, it takes away your aggresiveness. She needs to feel you being sexual. They can smell it.

I will take care of the rest until you meet her.