Going ghost and texting

[mrjapeto]

Sup Gents,
Short time lurker, first time poster.

I decided I was going to ghost this chick because, frankly at this point I have no idea where I stand. Spent some time hanging out with her, she didn't respond well to kino and seemed very low interest. I made the mistake of asking her if she was wanted to be more than what we were and she said no and left it there. I decided to give her a birthday card not too long ago and planned on just ghosting her.
Well today she texted me. Don't really know how to go about it, I don't want to be petty by just completely ignoring someone but at the same time I would like to work on other things and I have developed some oneitis for her so it sucks and I don't want to be sucked by it. I'm not even sure if what I'm doing is going ghost more or so I just want to get over this oneitis I've developed and maybe reassess things once my head has been cleared.

 

[Milano]

What did she text you?

Im sorry but the birthday card is for couples, it overkill. Asking her if she wanted more is also something a man is not allowed to do. You assume she wants more (like all the other chicks u are banging, remember) by taking action, and if rejected you brush it off like nothing and you can do a Corey Wayne if you like, "Hey, if you change your mind, give me a call" - or a text message in this day and age.

I dont see how ghosting is gonna work here when her interest level wasnt there, or so it seems.

Dont think of it like ghosting to get back interest, try to forget her. Take it as a learning experience. Most likely you wont get another chance with her if she is attractive.

 

[mrjapeto]

So I actually moved further 35min from where I used to live and she texted me talking about how since I left she no longer has anyone to workout with, which is what I would have usually done. I know I've made some mistakes but I'm over it I just want a fresh start in the the new area I'm in and if I'm not getting what I want from this girl that I'm not going to go out of my way to do stuff for her. I'm just torn whether I should just completely ignore her or I should just maybe respond to the text with a conversation ending answer.

 

[EyeBRollin]

You're in the friend zone so move on.

You can try for fun to invite her over for dinner. She'll decline though. When she does, ghost again. Rinse and repeat until she submits.

 

[mrjapeto]

Thats what im doing moving on. But what I'm asking is whether i should be replying to text messages or not if I was to just ghost her.

 

[nismo-4]

OP, revives exist in Pokemon games, not in dating. The interest is dead.

Just ignore her. She's not that attractive and you can do better anyway. Respond to that text if you want to be her new orbiter.

You are now either gonna get a beta role or no role with her. Delete her from all platforms and go get someone better. She already did, why can't you?

Case closed.

 

[bigneil]

"Do you want to be more than what we are?"

- From the Worst Pickup Lines in History Archive

 

[Milano]

"Do you want to be more than what we are?"

- From the Worst Pickup Lines in History Archive

Lol well we all gotta start somewhere

 

[bigneil]

Lol well we all gotta start somewhere

This topped my line from 1987 (when sitting 10 feet away from her, on a big rock in the woods):

"So... can I kiss you?"

 

[Milano]

Thats what im doing moving on. But what I'm asking is whether i should be replying to text messages or not if I was to just ghost her.

You tell her what you want. Take her out on a date to get to know eachother, when she declines you say "let me know if you change your mind" and forget her. She is litteraly dead to you.

I have gotten hardcore onitis this last year so bad but you just gotta keep going, its a war out there. Rinse repeat, numbers game.

This is some jedi sht but if you show up on her door with a rose between your teeth while kneeling she might want to marry you and have your baby

 

[mrjapeto]

"Do you want to be more than what we are?"

- From the Worst Pickup Lines in History Archive

Im dying so hard laughing right now. You should of heard my irl friends when they roasted me too. I didnt say it like that but it was worse. You guys are right time to move on.