"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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going crazy? u might have to much spare time

The challenger

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ok lately i was gettin a lil crazy, it can be described as extreme restlessness. I either really wanted to be with a girl (horny), or had a crazy hunger for violence. This kinda ruined my stability. I kept doing stupid things with girls, such as sending a emotional message which was totallllly afc.
so i relized i gotta get rid of this, IT WAS MAKIN ME TOTALLY AFC.

Working out usually cured it temporarily, which means it probably has to do with my idleness. Im currently in a situation where im stuck at home most of the time doing nothing important for the last 3 days. Turns out this was why i was gettin so emotional and lame lately and BAM i recently just found the cure.
since its sunday i have school tomarrow. i was only in school 2 outta the 5 days last week so i missed ALOT. so i started to study. BAM all of a sudden my restlessness disappeared!!! doing work and **** totally cured me.

so my advice to u guys is this. get hobbies and all sorts of stuff to keep u busy. stuff u enjoy and to be most efficient find some kinda goal u wanna accomplish and work for it. Accomplishing goals leads to confidence!

i also think this is why there are SO MANY KEYBOARD JOCKIES. sitting on the computer is extremly close to idleness. THis is probably making u more and more afc. Which cascades into u being to scared to approach and do stuff, or leads u to ****ing up with girls which makes u to insecure to do it again or something.

to all u keyboard jockies, stand up right now and do SOMETHING! anything that doesnt involve the computer, or video games!, u no u had stuff that u thut about doing but were to lazy to do. GO DO THEM NOWWW!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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nonchalant

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Invest in yourself. Material things and good fortune come to those who have self actualized.
 

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its very true on what you said. we all need to keep ourselves busy.:)
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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nonchalant said:
Invest in yourself. Material things and good fortune come to those who have self actualized.
:nono: Sounds like someone has been reading The Secret. :p
 

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great post man

when something is on my mind playing video games doesn't seem to do the trick, but I have find that going to the golf driving range with one of my friends helps out a lot.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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yea but whenever Im on the computer I am learning and reading, not gaming. I think TV is a bigger waste, and video games the biggest
 

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^ ur right TV AND GAMES ARE HORRRRRIBLE. almost 100% useless

but quick question. did u just start getting into the DJ community? cause for me i really cant learn much more from reading. I have reached the point where i can only really learn and improve from the feild.

be aware guys, u may be in this spot also but havent relized it or are denying it cause the feild is scary (which is why im still on this forum, its scary out there 100% alone lol)
 

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The challenger said:
I have reached the point where i can only really learn and improve from the feild.
I agree with challenger on this, browsing this site, etc leaves one with a wealth of knowledge, but like everything just reading is no use without practical experience.

Mjazz said:
I think TV is a bigger waste
I find TV actaully makes you lazy, for example if I first plonk down in front of the TV when I get home from work, I actually feel more lethargic/disenergized and don't feel like walking my dog/going to gym/etc. It actaully feels like it drains you more even though you are just staring at the box.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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yo iv noticed comp and tv make ur look alot worce and make u ALOT sleepier.

iv been on the comp more often lately (i no its bad >< i dont want to but grrr im goin though weird **** right now) and iv become ALOT ALOT ALOTTT less energetic and im sleeping in classes again
before when i barely went on i had ALOT more energy and cud stay awake (although it wasnt easy for some classes lol)
 

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Get a job, and plan **** for your days if you don't have anyone to hang with make yourself comfortable doing things by yourself and having just as much fun. I can have just as much fun by myself as hanging with any of my bros. And when I am on my own I am more likely to try an pick up on girls i see at the mall, Gym, Restaurant. Also sometimes if i hang out with the some person over the course of a couple days i just wont call and i do my own thing. You need to learn how to rely on yourself for, Your own entertainment and fun and everything in life.
 
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