"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Going against what you've read

felix692

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Hello again, some of u may remember me from a previous thread, but probably not! Anyway, i was after this girl who i thought maybe liked me but wasnt sure and who i (obviously) liked. Well, i thought she liked me but after reading some stuff on this website i was convinced that there was no way that she did and that id been going about it all the wrong way, being a total "afc". Well, looks like i was wrong and we've been going out 4 about a week or so now, dont get me wrong, im not saying that the info on here is rubbish, no way, cos theres some really good stuff. But it just goes to show, u never know. So take a chance guys, what have u got to lose? If she says no then its the same result as if u did nothing, think about it!
Cheers :)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Playboi0323

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Also remember my friend, getting and keeping a girl interested are two different animals. But good luck!
 

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lol, i may have exaggurated a bit-i wasnt that bad! thanks for the good wishes.She seems pretty keen atm and we're both pretty happy with hows stuffs going so we'll see what happens i guess;)
 

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I don't remember anything on this site telling you to convince yourself she doesn't like you. If anything, this site tries to convince you that you are the best and any woman should be lucky to be with you. This site tells you to find out if a woman is interested as soon as possible, by phone number, date, kiss. If she rejected any of those, then I don't see any way that she is really that interested in you.
 

JJMcLure

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Originally posted by felix692
So take a chance guys, what have u got to lose? If she says no then its the same result as if u did nothing, think about it!
Cheers :)
I read your previous post and almost all of the posters suggested you just go for it. There were a couple of track but youve always gotta expect that.

The advice is always not to bother overanalyzing signals and to just make a move (ask for her number/a date). The only thing to stop you would be FEAR of rejection.

It appears that's what you did and it worked.

But anyway your quote above is correct, and it's good you have first hand experience to back it up. Reading is one thing, doing is another.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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