I got into this (bad?) habit lately of getting/going after taken girls, I somewhat bad, but so far my success rate has been pretty solid and the girls seem to like it too, its commitment free sex and always a good time. Am i wrong for doing this?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
This.Raikojo17 said:I don't see the appeal in going after some other guys girl
why not just get your own? saves half the trouble and drama
Its not the men that are the problem, its the women who are in a relationship for letting this happen. A man shouldn't worry about what other men are doing but what he is doing.women haze said:Whatever happened to the gentleman's code? There are plenty, PLENTY of single pvssy out there
LOL. Gentleman's code.women haze said:Whatever happened to the gentleman's code? There are plenty, PLENTY of single pvssy out there
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
you act like the guy is too blame for the cheating. No, it's the girl that's to blame for cheating, the guy can only be blamed if he raped her.SleepyRangerMedic82D said:I personally believe if you sleep with a man's wife and he kills you he is justified in doing so.
Kal0051 said:you act like the guy is too blame for the cheating. No, it's the girl that's to blame for cheating, the guy can only be blamed if he raped her.
What if she lies and says she's single?SleepyRangerMedic82D said:I personally believe if you sleep with a man's wife and he kills you he is justified in doing so.
so you'd kill another guy because your girlfriend is an unfaithful ho?Ganondorf said:It takes two to tango, bro
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
That doesn't work. They often just want a bit of fun on the side, and don't want to go through a break up at that point in time. Maybe their boyfriend isn't turning them on so they want satisfaction elsewhere. You're only hurting your own chances of getting with the woman since although she may want you, she isn't going to break up with her boyfriend for a fling with you (in the short term.)Maybe even explain to her that what she is doing is wrong,and that she should break up with her beta Bf before she cheats on him?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.