"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Going after Oneitis girl?

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Any thoughts on this? Any dudes have experience in doing this?

Its come to a point where nothing i do gets this girl off my mind.This girl is my ex...I'm 16 and shes 16.... Its been over a year now I've been improving myself and keeping my self busy. Working out,playing football, getting my grades up talking and messing with LOADS of girls and nothing seems to get her outta my mind. I've been doing no contact since and she texts me and initiates contact here and there,(We attend the same high school, so we see each other often.) But i don't initiate first whatsoever.

I'm afraid i'll never get over her, because i havent met a girl that has the qualities shes got and no girl makes me feel the same way she makes me feel.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I know how you feel man. I'm trying to fight the temptation of texting or asking her out, but I'm fighting it. At least she doesn't tease you and like go on facebook and comment on your pics and crap.
 

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After a year passes it's ok to call and try a whole new seduction. Just don't be attached to the outcome. When ex's come back it's usually a year or so later.
 

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Well you dont got it bad as me ....a couple months ago we used to flirt with each other and call each other babe and all that....Then like a big dumba$$ i confessed my love for her and she took advantage and i gave her oral...Right after she just went cold...So i continued NC while imroving myself..but she would still text me here and there. But she dosent flirt any more whenever she texts
 

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youngmack said:
Well you dont got it bad as me ....a couple months ago we used to flirt with each other and call each other babe and all that....Then like a big dumba$$ i confessed my love for her and she took advantage and i gave her oral...Right after she just went cold...So i continued NC while imroving myself..but she would still text me here and there. But she dosent flirt any more whenever she texts
at least you didn't wimp out like me. She was practically asking for it and I wimped out.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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bigneil said:
After a year passes it's ok to call and try a whole new seduction. Just don't be attached to the outcome. When ex's come back it's usually a year or so later.

Thing is i dont really wanna just have sex wih her i want a relationship with her , i can get sex from other plates ...sex isnt a problem i just want this girl sooo bad
 

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youngmack said:
Thing is i dont really wanna just have sex wih her i want a relationship with her , i can get sex from other plates ...sex isnt a problem i just want this girl sooo bad

man you do have oneitis
 

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I mean im not saying if she came up to me and said Fvck me i will say no...of course i would fvck her brains out..but shes not the tyoe of girl that i would just fvck and curve..shes the type of girl that i wanna date
 

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Destroy that mindset now. Once I started getting that mindset, things went to straight up ****.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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The girl I caught oneitis for. Beforehand, I thought I was too good for her and things were going swell. Eventually, I started caving in and thinking well this girl looks like a potential gf for me. **** hit the fan after that.
 

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JPlaya said:
The girl I caught oneitis for. Beforehand, I thought I was too good for her and things were going swell. Eventually, I started caving in and thinking well this girl looks like a potential gf for me. **** hit the fan after that.

then what happened
 

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JPlaya said:
I don't like talking about it. I'm starting to get over it kind of.
how long did that take?
 

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Like a month of misery and torture. She's still in my head and I often think about her, but texting her the other day made it so much better, and I've been okay since.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Find a new hotter chick, and your oneitis, especially at that age, will be all about you.

But it's not real. You should know that. Time to move on yo!
 

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Johnnyventana said:
Find a new hotter chick, and your oneitis, especially at that age, will be all about you.

But it's not real. You should know that. Time to move on yo!
Now that's a long story, I kind of did
 

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JohnChops said:
I dunno I still have this issue too, how can you classify it as oneitis if he's been spinning other plates and it hasn't gotten her off his mind ...

Yeah thats what im saying because like dont get me wrong i have no problem attracting girls. Just two weeks ago i bought two different girls ova my house and banged them, then went to another girls house and banged her.. Its just this one girl she appeals to me in a way other girls cant, we dated before and she broke up with me because i think she got bored and i wasent applying any don juan skills,i wasent aggressive enough basically i was your typical 15 year old AFC..... ever since i havent gotten over her.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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